Fathers Day - am I being unreasonable?

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  • marleyboy
    marleyboy Posts: 16,698 Forumite
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    You don't have to preach the religion, but for the sake of the kids wanting to make you proud of them, you really should show a little enthusiasm. If it were a Christmas Pantomime and your children were playing lead roles, your heart would melt at their performance.

    Being a Fathers Day treat, makes it more personal than a Christmas panto, whereas the children are performing with a dedication to their Dad. At least pretend to be keen and allow them the chance to melt your heart with pride.
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  • balletshoes
    balletshoes Posts: 16,610 Forumite
    Only because the OP has let the mum brainwash his kids!!

    I'd have been out of there before she had the chance.

    The OP says the kids have fun at church?

    Religion doesn't have to be a dealbreaker, or even much of an intrusion, into a relationship/marriage, depending on how its done and how fervent each partner is.

    Obviously different people have different dealbreakers.
  • notanewuser
    notanewuser Posts: 8,499 Forumite
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    In your opinion, of course.;)

    Oh come off it!!!!
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  • Lagoon
    Lagoon Posts: 934 Forumite
    I can see both sides of this. If I were in your position, I'd be a bit disappointed and annoyed. However, it sounds like this is something that your children want to do. This isn't just your partner's decision.

    I think it's reasonable that they be allowed to go. I think that's out of the equation. I'd consider the two options to be your non-attendance, which is perfectly reasonable as that's your choice, or you turning up but making it clear that it's a one-off and is for the kids.

    I'd think of it this way - it's Father's Day, which is a celebration of the bond between a father and his children. It's a two-way bond. Try not to think of it as your day, but a day about you and your children. Wouldn't it make their day to see that their father is sacrificing some of the day to support them because he's proud of what they're doing even if it's not something he agrees with?

    It's the little actions like that, that are the ones they'll remember when they think about their Dad.
  • notanewuser
    notanewuser Posts: 8,499 Forumite
    The OP says the kids have fun at church?

    Religion doesn't have to be a dealbreaker, or even much of an intrusion, into a relationship/marriage, depending on how its done and how fervent each partner is.

    Obviously different people have different dealbreakers.

    Of course the kids love it! They get bribed with cakes and sweets!
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  • balletshoes
    balletshoes Posts: 16,610 Forumite
    Of course the kids love it! They get bribed with cakes and sweets!

    and maybe thats not the only reason they enjoy going?
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  • Torry_Quine
    Torry_Quine Posts: 18,829 Forumite
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    I agree with those who think it would be a shame for the OP not to go along and see the children in the play. It isn't all day and your children will love you for it.
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  • warehouse
    warehouse Posts: 3,362 Forumite
    I've been Money Tipped!
    Are you serious OP?

    You don't believe in Church but do believe in Card Shop Fathers Day, and get in a strop over it?

    Grow up man.
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  • notanewuser
    notanewuser Posts: 8,499 Forumite
    and maybe thats not the only reason they enjoy going?

    Please expand....
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