My younger sister is terminally ill. I don't know what to do. Am lost actually.

Heamol

Just came across this thread, so sorry for your loss *hug* will pray for your sis, you and your family today xxx

System

So sorry for your loss.

kezzygirl

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, may she rest in peace and may you manage these next few weeks in the way that you hope to.

One point though for those of you saying 'I know how you feel' can I just say-

No,you don't actually know how she is feeling? Grief is a very individual thing and I for one would not want someone telling me they 'know how I feel' if -heaven forbid-a relative died because no-one does know how I or anyone else feels.

I wish you well op x

thorsoak

{{sending you hugs}} May your memories keep you strong. My condolences to your whole family x

melanzana

To everyone who has contributed I thank you all.

It is so amazing that an anonymous forum helped me so much, but then things can be so intense during a bereavement can't they?

I think I am just numb now. And those here who are bereaved will no doubt understand that.

I am returning to work tomorrow. But I don't think I'm ready yet. My boss is very kind and has assured me that I need not worry if I need time out. That is so wonderful.

It is at times like this that you really know who your friends are. And I do.

My OH lost his brother just before sis died. I needed comfort and so did he. We cried together and I really realised how much I love him. Sometimes these things are taken for granted. But the whole thing was a total nightmare. Imagine both of us losing siblings at the same time. Sadly OH did not get time to say goodbye to his brother. I am heartbroken for him and heartbroken for sis too. Oh dear.

I loved my sister so much, and will miss her terribly.

A spooky note, her cat died the night before she passed.

Love to you all. And thanks again.

mary2012

Bless you and all of your family and those affected xx I am humbled by your strength and dignity. (((hugs))) xx

belfastgirl23

So sorry to hear this.

I know I'm appreciating my own family in a new way after these terribly sad posts. Those of you who have shared sad stories should know that good is coming from them.

meritaten

melanzana - it sounds like your sis let you into her life in her last days - and having nursed both MIL and FIL and been there for BIL on his last day - don't you feel priviledged? to ease a person through a difficult time and share their last moments? you had that, its hard to explain, but relatives of clients always seemed to feel that - while those who weren't there - either because of work commitments or family commitments always seemed to say to me 'we feel we let her down - were excluded somehow'. and blamed themselves. your sis seems to have had a peaceful end to her life surrounded by those she loved - who could ask more than that?
my condolences luv - just remember the sister you loved and one day you will remember her with love and happiness - not sadness and grief.

pink_princess

Nothing I say will help you but I pray you stay stronger xx

melanzana

Tell them that you love them.

Do not delay things that you really want to do.

Life is precious, and time passes far too quickly.

I am so privileged that I had time to do things with sis. But I wish so much that she was with us still.

That cannot be anymore, but I have fantastic memories.