Alcohol issues - am i being unreasonable? advice please

unholyangel

pukkamum wrote: »

Oh and here's another theory but I could be totally wrong, he never went through the teenage drinking years, he was a rugby player and golfer when a teen and his mother was very controlling, not allowed out after dark even at 16 etc, so he never did the hanging round the park drinking etc, which I must confess is when I did my out of control drinking, by the time I hit my 20's I knew how to control alchohol without it controlling me. Something I don't think pukkadad ever learnt.

I didnt go crazy in my teenage years. Quite a few of my mates did and I could never fathom the appeal of being senseless.

Although perhaps I never went crazy in teenage years because I was given alcohol on special occasions by my parents from a very young age. When I got a bit older they relaxed more and more although I did overhear an exchange between them, mum wasnt happy dad had said I could have another drink. Dad replied that I needed to know my limits but I was never going to learn if they didnt let me. Its always stuck in my head and if I had to name one thing that always kept my drinking in check, its that one sentence.

gt568 wrote: »

Two sides to every story and we are only getting one. I suspect, if the story is 100% accurate (which it won't be), that his drinking is in rebellion to her possible controlling nature.
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Sounds like you havent had to deal with alcohol abusers/alcoholics on a regular basis. Alcohol is still a drug and can cause just as much devastation to a family/friendship as heroin addiction.


People always blame the drink. And imo you can get away with it the first time only. Because if you continue to drink to the same level (or higher) knowing what it does to you, you're still making a sober decision to be an !!!!!!!.

BitterAndTwisted

"He's ended up in a ditch in the freezing snow in only a t shirt"

"He's called me a c*nt and he's ended up in a taxi being unable to give the taxi driver his address and numerous other dangerous and stupid scenarios"

"He had been in an accident and been arrested for drink driving"

"He's out tonight 50 miles away. He's missed the last train home and I spoke to him at 10pm and he had no idea where he was"

"He has already been arrested 3 times (that I know about) because of his drinking"

If anyone truly believes that the foregoing is a description of "people who are allowed to have fun and cut loose once in a while" they've got to be deluded or mentally impaired. Or a troll.

If I had a partner who behaved in this way, even if it was once in a blue moon, I'd be very seriously rethinking my future with them. At the very least I'd be ensuring the life-insurance premiums were up to date because there's a fair certainty that a funeral or some other life-changing event was on the road ahead.