DS GF staying over.... advice.

Spendless

securityguy wrote: »

I suspect I was the one being clumsy.

There are endless threads on MSE, Mumsnet and elsewhere in which middle-aged women (usually) lament how their sons (usually) don't come to see them often enough, and exclude them from the lives of their grandchildren. Children-in-law are usually blamed.

There are endless threads in the same places in which mothers (always) outline the various ways they make sure their pure children never have sex in the family house, insisting on bizarre sleeping arrangements to prevent this, even at the expense of being wildly inhospitable to their children's friends and partners.

I suspect there's a correlation.

I agree with this and the others who are making a similar point.

Aged 17 with my first boyfriend that I'd been dating a year we had the same sort of circs as the OP's son over going somewhere. My boyfriend's mother said I had to sleep in the same bed as her, and my boyfriend's Dad in the same bed as him if I was to sleep over. When my boyfriend objected saying that his older brother (now married and left home) had his girlfriend sleep over she was allowed to sleep on the sofa, his mum still objected on the ground that the sofa was new and she couldn't see an issue with me sharing her bed as 'she didn't smell'! Too young to make a commotion I put up with her suggestion, but never stayed again. We eventually split up after 4.5 years together and I later married someone else, but I still repeat this anecdote over someone's Mum being 'strange' in an attitude to giving someone a bed for the night.

If you don't want this girl to think in the same way I do about my ex's Mum I suggest you either say that there is no room full stop and she will have to go home, throwing it back to the girl's parents on how to do this or you let one of them sleep on the sofa and if your house rules are no hanky panky you tell your son you trust him to abide by this.

peachyprice

So OP, what have you decided to do?

Blackpool_Saver

If it is going to happen it is more likely to happen when they are away from both houses, sex can happen in the daytime too. I went through all this with my son, in the end I was involved with getting her on birth control. I am a Christian but at the end of the day you have to be realistic

tayforth

Spendless wrote: »

I agree with this and the others who are making a similar point.

Aged 17 with my first boyfriend that I'd been dating a year we had the same sort of circs as the OP's son over going somewhere. My boyfriend's mother said I had to sleep in the same bed as her and my boyfriend's Dad in the same bed as him if I was to sleep over. When my boyfriend objected saying that his older brother (now married and left home) had his girlfriend sleep over she was allowed to sleep on the sofa, his mum still objected on the ground that the sofa was new and she couldn't see an issue with me sharing her bed as 'she didn't smell'! Too young to make a commotion I put up with her suggestion, but never stayed again. We eventually split up after 4.5 years together and I later married someone else, but I still repeat this anecdote over someone's Mum being 'strange' in an attitude to giving someone a bed for the night.

If you don't want this girl to think in the same way I do about my ex's Mum I suggest you either say that there is no room full stop and she will have to go home, throwing it back to the girl's parents on how to do this or you let one of them sleep on the sofa and if your house rules are no hanky panky you tell your son you trust him to abide by this.

I read this the wrong way at first!!!!! :eek:

:rotfl:

tayforth

What a horrid woman your ex's mum is, btw!!!

jungle_jane

tayforth wrote: »

I read this the wrong way at first!!!!! :eek:

:rotfl:

So did I! I thought 'good grief, how utterly inappropriate'!! Was only when I saw your comment Tay that I realised I had got it wrong:rotfl:

Dunroamin

I still don't see why someone doesn't just run her home.

Spendless

ha, ha, ha. :eek: :rotfl: Think I'd best edit it and put in a missing comma.:D

Spendless

Dunroamin wrote: »

I still don't see why someone doesn't just run her home.

This hasn't been answered but my guess is it is to do with the time it will finish as it only starts at 9pm and maybe a combination of non-drivers/car owners, shift work and a lot younger children that need someone at home with them.

Dunroamin

Spendless wrote: »

This hasn't been answered but my guess is it is to do with the time it will finish as it only starts at 9pm and maybe a combination of non-drivers/car owners, shift work and a lot younger children that need someone at home with them.

That's of course possible but the fact that the question hasn't been answered suggests it might be less reasonable than that.

Also rather surprising that a taxi can't be managed if the cost is divided between 5/6 people.