DS GF staying over.... advice.

Mojisola

Not allowing her to stay will say to your son more loudly than any words "I don't trust you". How is that going to make him feel?

How old is he going to have to be before you do trust him? Are you going to do surprise visits when he goes to uni to make sure he's being a good boy?

Blackpool_Saver

in my case the lack of picking up by the girls parent was laziness and boozing, many parents put their social life ahead of their kids safety

Blackpool_Saver

Mojisola wrote: »

Not allowing her to stay will say to your son more loudly than any words "I don't trust you". How is that going to make him feel?

How old is he going to have to be before you do trust him? Are you going to do surprise visits when he goes to uni to make sure he's being a good boy?

Yes, I have put a down payment on my helicopter to continue my helicopter parenting ;-) (joke)

Spendless

Dunroamin wrote: »

That's of course possible but the fact that the question hasn't been answered suggests it might be less reasonable than that.

Also rather surprising that a taxi can't be managed if the cost is divided between 5/6 people.

I've missed that bit. I've read it as though it is just girlfriend who lives in another town to the rest going.

balletshoes

Dunroamin wrote: »

That's of course possible but the fact that the question hasn't been answered suggests it might be less reasonable than that.

Also rather surprising that a taxi can't be managed if the cost is divided between 5/6 people.

to be fair to the OP, she hasn't been back to the thread since her sleepless night when she posted originally.

Dunroamin

Spendless wrote: »

I've missed that bit. I've read it as though it is just girlfriend who lives in another town to the rest going.

I was thinking of the OP, her other OH, the girl's mother and the teenagers themselves. The kids fathers would be a bonus.

Dunroamin

balletshoes wrote: »

to be fair to the OP, she hasn't been back to the thread since her sleepless night when she posted originally.

You're right, of course. I was just looking at ways round the problem rather than just saying "no taxi".