Would you date someone with a disabled child?

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My daughter is a single Mum with an Autistic son and she is FABULOUS and an amazing catch in my opinion!!!

She has no shortage of admirers and people wanting to be with her but she has not found her Mr Right yet regardless of her son & I don't see why such a beautiful person with SO MUCH potential should miss out on the chance of the happiness she deserves with a great man!...

The ones who aren't great will run a mile = GOOD - If you can't see what an absolute BLESSING my Grandson is then scarper off quick or rather , s*d off LOL

My Grandson is not a burden , he has special needs which means one part of his brain has a deficit BUT another part of his brain has an AMAZING capacity and he ADDS something to our lives , something awesome that I cannot even fathom but it is a priviledge to know him yet alone love him and if he loves you back you feel happy and blessed because YOU ARE!

So yes , it is indeed possible and I KNOW I am going to be buying my wedding hat one day! :j

heretolearn_2

I'll be honest and say that no, I wouldn't date someone with a child with serious disabilities. I know I don't have it in me to deal with that and the effect on my life. I wouldn't choose that type of lifestyle, no matter how fab the parent was. Less serious disabilities, yes, I'd think about it, but don't ask me exactly where I'd draw the line, I don't know. I think I'd deal with physical disabilities better than developmental ones.

However, I'd think twice about dating someone with a young child with no disabilities as well though, I'm past that stage now and not keen to repeat it with someone else's kids.

So just because I wouldn't, doesn't mean no one would, and there's plenty of answers on here from people who would go ahead.

Dating is funny anyway, you never know who'll click and who won't. Some people who seem to have everything going for them - good looking, funny, intelligent, lovely - never meet 'the one'. And other very ordinary people (and some not very nice people) end up in a massive love affair...it's not a predictable thing at all. So go for it, OP :-)

gwen80

OP I certainly would not rule yourself out. I'm sure you have a lot to offer the right person. The only other thing I'd say is that none of us knows what the future holds - where we'll be or how the world will change around us. One day at a time..

Gx

PS. Not to everyone's taste, but I love Desiderata:
'But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness'

System

Yes I would. As long as there was room in his heart for me.

*Robin*

jordygal wrote: »

Thank you for all your honest responses, I guess i'm just a bit pee'd off as my ex who is a poor excuse for a man anyway, and would like any excuse to walk away from his kids has met a new partner within weeks of us splitting. I'm left caring, practically 24/7 for our children, with him saying "i'm not legally obliged to have anything to do with the kids, loads of men don't" which I know is true, but he is able to walk away from this family leaving me with the long outstretching future of issues, I'm only 32 and it just feels like a hell of a long time to live without a cuddle at the end of the day.

Hang on - your kids are all entitled to have their father in their lives; why are you allowing your Ex to abdicate his responsibility?
He is still their parent and should be spending time with his children - jordygal maybe you would be well advised to work towards that first (before wondering about the possibilities of new love)?
Once a routine of visits has been established you will have some time for yourself - as a carer you need that so Ex will just have to step up, despite the undoubted difficulties.

How far along the divorce road are you, jordygal?