Ex wife lied to where she has taken kids abroad. Where do i stand?

Blackpool_Saver

this is all ridiculous, none is to do with the benefit of the children it's all silly tit for tat stuff. As the years go by you grow out of these silly battles

Calien27

As others have pointed out, unless your ex is marrying a US citizen, staying in America isn't that easy, even then it's not just a case of "get married and set up home", did you have these worries when you thought she was going to Orlando?

You now know your kids are in Vegas, there is nothing you can actually do to ensure their safety whilst they are away, same scenario for if they were in Orlando. If (God forbid) they had an accident or got poorly in either place you'd still be relying on someone who is over there with them to inform you of it.

Relax a little, let them enjoy their holiday...and stop looking at your ex's FB and winding yourself up over what she posts.

peachyprice

nearlyrich wrote: »

I took my children on many holidays over years I never told their Dad where we were staying or exact travel details.

^^^^^ This

I trust my ex to be able to look after our children wherever they are as does he me. Beyond 'ooh, were are you going for your hols, that should be nice, the boys will enjoy that' I have never expected him to give me exact details of where we are going. Neither have I contacted him during their holiday, the children phone me if they want to, and that's it, it's their time together and nothing to do with me, he is not a lesser parent than me and doesn't need me checking upon him. I certainly wouldn't be looking at his facebook page to see where they are (don't know if he even has one).

Jinx

He wont need to in the future, the minute he gives her a 'stern talking to' he'll be deleted......

Zoetoes

[QUOTE=Moonwax;61504111
Are probably a disgrunted parent who has some issues about an ex. [/QUOTE]

Pot and kettle I think.

janninew

I to would be worried OP if my daughter was taken to America and I was given false information, flights etc. I like to know where my child is, surely all responsible parents like to know where their young children are. I have read many threads on here about separated parents taking their children away and you would have received some very different answers from some if the roles were reversed! Sorry not sure where you stand, but having a chat when she gets back and tell her how disappointed you are that she felt the need to lie. Its a bit risky on her part though as surely you will be wary in giving the permission she needs to leave the Country in the future with your children, its hard to trust somebody who has lied and caused worry, especially when your children are involved.

silverjay

Why don't you just pick up the phone and call her and the kids to put your mind at rest?

Calien27

Moonwax wrote: »

I came for advice, i got some good & great advice. Thanks guys.

Yes i mention solicitor, for legal grounds.
Police for advice? They know the law is that a problem?

Overeact? So what? Im concerned i have been completly lied to. But i now have advice to go on, from here and other sources.

My kids are the most important in my life i can be controlling regarding them only! I have looked into the worse case scenario now and know what to do, also know what to speak to the mother about upon their return.

I didnt need the judging by some of you who did, but learnt you have no clue about the law and situatuation i am in. Are probably a disgrunted parent who has some issues about an ex.

Thanks again to those who have helped. But im signing off here now.

But she hasn't broken any laws...there isn't any thing in place stopping her from taking them to one state instead of the one she told you they were going to.

As for last part...pot meet kettle.

Zoetoes

Moonwax wrote: »

I came for advice, i got some good & great advice. Thanks guys.

Yes i mention solicitor, for legal grounds.
Police for advice? They know the law is that a problem?

Overeact? So what? Im concerned i have been completly lied to. But i now have advice to go on, from here and other sources.

My kids are the most important in my life i can be controlling regarding them only! I have looked into the worse case scenario now and know what to do, also know what to speak to the mother about upon their return.

I didnt need the judging by some of you who did, but learnt you have no clue about the law and situatuation i am in. Are probably a disgrunted parent who has some issues about an ex.

Thanks again to those who have helped. But im signing off here now.

That is not concern for the children.

shellsuit

silverjay wrote: »

Why don't you just pick up the phone and call her and the kids to put your mind at rest?

He said he's tried and she's not answering.

If it were me, I would be just as annoyed as the OP.

If we all went on holiday and I told my ex (father of the eldest 2, who I haven't even been with since the kids were 6 months and almost 2), we were going to X, but we really went to Y, and he found out and went mad, I wouldn't blame him.

Why lie to the other parent of your children about anything, let alone which holiday destination you're going to?!

The stupid thing is that you were bound to find out anyway. Unless they are babies/toddlers, I'm sure to God they would slip up about where they had been.

It's not fair putting your own child in that position.