Silly situation but a little upset about it.

meritaten

Go with your instincts. she may be all 'surface' friendly, but as reliable as Sun in Winter!

shegirl

meritaten wrote: »

Go with your instincts. she may be all 'surface' friendly, but as reliable as Sun in Winter!

Have you even read it?The friend did not make or agree to any plan!

shellsuit

Why don't people speak to each other anymore?

I wouldn't go to meet someone, unless the meeting had been set in concrete.

If I ask someone else to meet, then IMO, it's upto me to make the arrangements and stick to them.

Asking someone to meet you days before you want to meet, then telling them the time to meet on that day, is ridiculous.

I'm sorry but I think it's you that's in the wrong here, and the silence from your friend is probably because she is peed off that you asked her to meet up, she replied to say Yes, when? And you only reply the morning of the meeting with a time.

If she's got children, then they are her priority.

paulineb_2

top_drawer wrote: »

lol no I texted her Sunday saying I had an appointment at the hospital on Tuesday, did she fancy a coffee?

She said Yeh, definitely .... what time? I replied on Tuesday how about 1pm, you choose where. She replied at 11 ish that she had a new phone and had just got my text. I said "No problem, figured you were enjoying your days off"

Im still a bit confused as to who texted who when.

The OP texted on sunday saying to meet on Tuesday. This bit of info doesnt actually say when the friend texted back asking what time.

Unless Ive missed that in later posts. Also, the OP may have assumed that because the friend had said yes to meeting for a coffee all they needed to do was arrange a time and place.

I dont always respond to texts straight away, for example if my phone needs charged or its sitting somewhere else in the house, not everyone carries their phone round beside them 24/7.

victory

I'm confused on this one, did you text on Sunday and texted again on Tuesday with the time?

Person_one

From what I can see:

On Sunday, TD text asking friend if she wanted to meet up on Tuesday.

On Monday, friend texted back saying 'what time?'

On Tuesday morning at 10 TD text to say she'd be finished at her clinic at 1pm.


After that I'm less sure...!

victory

Person_one wrote: »

From what I can see:

On Sunday, TD text asking friend if she wanted to meet up on Tuesday.

On Monday, friend texted back saying 'what time?'

On Tuesday morning at 10 TD text to say she'd be finished at her clinic at 1pm.


After that I'm less sure...!

Oh I see thanks, I've kept out of this one because having read it twice I still don't get it, no wonder everyone else involved in the actual text/ meet up is peeved and confused causing this situation:D

top_drawer_2

Yes. Do read my post.

I have tried to clarify several times. On the day I texted How about 1pm and she replied much later while I was at the hospital that she had just changed over to a new phone ....

Some do posters seem to almost go out of their way almost to swap events around and give them reason to pronounce the OP to be bang out of order. I certainly don't expect anyone to be at my beck and call!!! It was a coffee; a mutually nice thing to do together, to chat about stuff. If she didn't want to then fair enough, but I don't expect to be ignored. And yes I do get that I ignored her to an extent but it wasn't ignored because I'm ignorant ignored and when the same thing happens to me I accept it as "Oh well they've probably got busy, struggling for time in the day" coffee is not a priority afterall.

Maybe I should have replied sooner, maybe I should have phoned - she has issues with phones which I can well understand so so again I tend to take her view into account and not phone her.

Either way two days later and she still has not texted. There was no clarity in "I've just picked up S from school", since I had just given her an update where I was at I took it that was all it was as in I've just picked s from school (and so will be at least x minutes). And yes we hadn't made any firm arrangement but then why not reply saying "Sorry made plans elsewhere now"

I post on here a lot (as others do) as I struggle with these types of situations (low s-e, confidence, righteous anger, feel that others opinions are worth more etc) and tend to attach more importance to stuff than it means to others. Its really quite upsetting when I put myself out there + be honest about my failings (replying to texts) and people choose to attack.

top_drawer_2

Person_one wrote: »

From what I can see:

On Sunday, TD text asking friend if she wanted to meet up on Tuesday.

On Monday, friend texted back saying 'what time?'

On Tuesday morning at 10 TD text to say she'd be finished at her clinic at 1pm.


After that I'm less sure...!

Im sorry I've just checked my phone on Monday at 1906 I suggested 1pm. On Tuesday I suggested 1pm again stating that I hoped it would be late enough as the hospital was a pain. And asked how the weather was in x as maybe the park would be nice .....

She replied at 11.50 that she had just got my message.

I replied I was still at the the hospital.

She replied she was "just" picking s up from school at 11.55.

Then nothing.

balletshoes

sorry that you feel attacked - but I think people are just saying that the arrangements that were made were really too vague from both of you, so if you're upset, thats a shame, but maybe she is too? Unless you actually speak to each other you're not going to get to the bottom of it and any misunderstanding could go on for weeks.