Silly situation but a little upset about it.

Dunroamin

top_drawer wrote: »

Why would I say a fraction of it? or any of it? I might have bad social skills but I would imagine looking at her interpetation of the situation would be best ....

I would go with something along the lines of, after saying "Hello... "We seemed to have encountered some crossed wires in meeting up? I was quite offended, you didn't respond to my texts" Someone else may have a better phrasing.

Why would you want to tell her you were offended - what sort of response could she give to that?

Seriously, I'd find the extra money to phone and stop texting because it seems to be a major cause of problems for you.

cloudy-day

top_drawer wrote: »

I would go with something along the lines of, after saying "Hello... "We seemed to have encountered some crossed wires in meeting up? I was quite offended, you didn't respond to my texts" Someone else may have a better phrasing.

NO. NO. NO.

This is really rude and confrontaional.

Do not say you were offended - honestly you're just not listening to the advice you've been given. You say you have social skills issues - so please, take notice of others when they try to explain why what you plan to say is rude.

Move on and stop making such a big deal out of nothing.

paulineb_2

top_drawer wrote: »

Yes it may well be... but I would like to avoid future instances particularly if there is any chance that I may decide to involve myself with her in the future, as she has become such a popular member of staff it will be difficult not too.

I would think that the final 2/3 texts were pretty clear that there was a problem, particularly -

I have done all my jobs that I need to do so I am going to head home now ... No response.

or the final one Glad ur ok, was quite annoyed when you just left me hanging around yesterday ... No response.

I do try to get people to like me, although I don't see how this would affect this situation really.

Sending someone a text saying, I was quite annoyed when you left me hanging around yesterday, I think thats something that should have been said face to face.

Also, I agree, you need to work with this woman and you might not have liked the way she treated you, but I think you need to let it go, you can work closely with people without having to be their friend.

tea_lover

I don't mean to be rude but oh my goodnes, get over it!

Calien27

tea_lover wrote: »

I don't mean to be rude but oh my goodnes, get over it!

^^^This!!

It's really not that big of a deal to still be worked up over it.

There's also no need to confront her or even make an issue of it, you didn't properly confirm your meeting, she decided to do other things instead, that's all it is.

GBNI

tea_lover wrote: »

I don't mean to be rude but oh my goodnes, get over it!

I was just thinking exactly the same! To be quite honest OP, if someone was texting me the way you are I'd be running a mile. Clingy and suffocating do not make for attractive traits in a person.

Pixiechic

At the beginning, this seemed to be just a misunderstanding. Now, you seem to obsessed with this woman, wanting to keep getting in touch with her.

You seem to have put her on some sort of pedestal because you see her as popular. The issue is that your behaviour won't make you popular if you continue and if you confront this woman.

It would freak me out to be honest..................

I don't want to be mean but you don't seem to be taking on board what the majority of people are saying.

Let it go, move on, be polite and friendly to your colleagues and see how you go from there

JimmyTheWig

top_drawer wrote: »

I have done all my jobs that I need to do so I am going to head home now ... No response.

There was probably no response to this because she didn't know how to respond.

I might have missed something along the way, but did it go something like this...

You: Shall we meet up?
Her: Yes, what time?
You: 1pm?
<Various chit-chat messages about what you are both doing, but none of it particularly relating to what time you are meeting up, where you are meeting up or if you are even, in fact, meeting up.>
You: I have done all my jobs that I need to do so I am going to head home now.

This is where I think I might have missed something, because this looks to me like it was _you_ who had blown _her_ out. You had agreed to meet, then you turn around and say you are going home.