Silly situation but a little upset about it.

top_drawer_2

paulineb wrote: »

You are upset because she didnt text you back or because she didnt respond with a definite time? If someone cant drop you off where you need to go, dont get a lift with them, its quite simple.

I dont know if this person is a friend, or a work colleague or how well you know them, but it sounds like you dont know them that well

It possibly wasnt the best idea to meet when you didnt know exactly what time you would be finished up at the hospital.

People are who they are, some people can be thoughtless, some people deliberately so. The fact that shes not responding to your posts and texts, she obviously doesnt want to talk about it just now and yes I would respond to a text from someone and I would message them back on facebook, but you cant predict other peoples behaviour

And if people regularly walk all over you thats something that only you can change.

You seem to have things a bit confused - there has been no response at all. I offered 1pm and I was finished by 1pm - I offered her a way out to say No 2ish would be better.

I got a lift with her and the place I would have ideally liked to have been dropped off was 5 mins max out her way .... I kind of thought that as a friend it wouldn't be too much to ask. I know it wouldn't be for me.

top_drawer_2

bagpussbear wrote: »

OP if I am reading this correctly did you mean you gave her 3 hours notice to meet, without any previous mention that you'd be in the area? Sorry if I am misunderstanding!

lol no I texted her Sunday saying I had an appointment at the hospital on Tuesday, did she fancy a coffee?

She said Yeh, definitely .... what time? I replied on Tuesday how about 1pm, you choose where. She replied at 11 ish that she had a new phone and had just got my text. I said "No problem, figured you were enjoying your days off"

paulineb_2

I thought that she had responded, that she had texted you saying that she was collecting her child from school.

If I have misunderstood your opening post, there was quite a lot of information and its not really clear whether you had a definite arrangement to meet this person.

Person_one

top_drawer wrote: »

lol no I texted her Sunday saying I had an appointment at the hospital on Tuesday, did she fancy a coffee?

She said Yeh, definitely .... what time? I replied on Tuesday how about 1pm, you choose where. She replied at 11 ish that she had a new phone and had just got my text. I said "No problem, figured you were enjoying your days off"

Hang on, she replied with 'What time?' on Sunday but you didn't respond with a time until Tuesday morning?

top_drawer_2

Yes her child is 16 so I didn't see that as an issue.

Sorry, there is a lot of information but yes I am under the impression we had a definite arrangement to meet at 1pm. I was finished by 1pm but got no more responses from her.

top_drawer_2

Person_one wrote: »

Hang on, she replied with 'What time?' on Sunday but you didn't respond with a time until Tuesday morning?

Monday. I responded Tuesday morning as I am travelling a long way and knew that the clinic may well be packed/empty. Admittedly I'm rubbish at responding to texts (difficultly switching between jobs).

Why would that be an issue? She responded on the day and there didn't seem to be an issue.

Person_one

top_drawer wrote: »

Monday. I responded Tuesday morning as I am travelling a long way and knew that the clinic may well be packed/empty. Admittedly I'm rubbish at responding to texts (difficultly switching between jobs).

Why would that be an issue? She responded on the day and there didn't seem to be an issue.

For future reference, I think you should have responded sooner. If I were to ask 'what time?' about a meeting on Tuesday lunchtime I would expect a reply a bit quicker than 10am on Tuesday! Why did you leave it so long?

I think the casualness about the meeting on both sides means you shouldn't get too upset about it. This wasn't something formal arranged properly ahead of time.

top_drawer_2

Because its not the meeting of the great minds or anything ..... just a coffee. I was worried about setting a time and being late due to the clinic just basically being a drop-in.

I'm upset she didn't respond at all. Nothing.

Even "I've made other plans" "I'm comfortable on the sofa now so lets leave it today"

paulineb_2

top_drawer wrote: »

Because its not the meeting of the great minds or anything ..... just a coffee. I was worried about setting a time and being late due to the clinic just basically being a drop-in.

I'm upset she didn't respond at all. Nothing.

Even "I've made other plans" "I'm comfortable on the sofa now so lets leave it today"

Well if her not responding to you has upset you so much I would think I would be having a mull over as to whether you want to continue to be friends, its up to you, you do have choices.

Person_one

Honestly, I think its slightly poor manners to leave somebody hanging overnight after they've asked 'what time?' like that.

Next time, even if its casual say "Not too sure what time I'll be ready, but probably between 12 and 1' or 'can I text you in the morning with a time?'

You basically just ignored her text, which is what you're upset about her doing to you!