A friend staying at our place for 2 weeks

Bennifred

amalis wrote: »

she is my friend. My husband doesnt like her at all, he is tolerating her because of me. And yes, she is planning to come next year again.

Well, it just won't be possible/convenient for her to stay with you, will it?! :mad:

Molly41

I think she is being very rude.
We once had a friend of my husbands staying when we had three small children under the age of 4. This friend did absolutely nothing around the house and contributed nothing. The crunch came when dinner was late so she went off to buy herself a portion of fish and chips, came home and ate them in front of three salivating children. My son asked if he could have a chip and she point blank refused. My dad who was visiting was so disgusted with her behaviour that he went out and bought the kids fish and chips. She left later that night as I could not believe her selfishness :eek:

gingin_2

amalis wrote: »

And yes, she is planning to come next year again.

Then set the ground rules before she gets there next time. My inlaws descend on me for very long lengths of time and this year we have had to be pretty firm on what we can and can't do to save our sanity, despite offending them somewhat. It's your house, if she wants to stay then it's got to be on your terms, otherwise it never changes and you will find yourself getting even more irritated next time.

Watto30

amalis wrote: »

Its more about being polite, but maybe I am simply not a hospitable person. I am confused.

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I think you are being more than hospitable allowing this person to come to stay with you for 2 weeks even so do not blame yourself, I think as others have suggested maybe being a bit firmer with her might make her realise she cant treat your place like a hotel and help herself to everything, its the done thing to ask first. I would think twice before allowing her to stay again next year though...

This reminds me of a time I had a so called friend to stay for a night.. she had never met my OH until then and spent the night flirting with him and drinking all my wine, I came down in the morning (before OH got up luckily) and there she was swanning around in a vest with no bra and the skimpiest knickers known to man..:eek: I think she got a shock when I came down the stairs and not my OH, not more of a shock she got when I told her to put her clothes on and get out of my house using expletives! lol! people can certainly take the biscuit when you offer hospitality!

Pechow

I'm living in Eastern Europe right now, and have never heard of people not saying please/thank you as often as Brits or helping themselves to food. I just asked my partner, who has lived here his whole life, and he thought that was ridiculous and rude too. I've found that Europeans offer food/drink so often you wouldn't need to take things anyway

It's just this person that's rude, she knows what she's doing, and is taking advantage. I can't believe she didn't even offer to replace the ice cream after being told it was being saved specially.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

With my friends, they know they can help themselves to food and drink - and smoking materials. It's the same with their homes, too.

Thing is, if you were at her house, she would probably not have a problem with you doing it.


So it may not be rude, she just might not have thought it was any different at yours.

You haven't seen her for a long time and your husband doesn't like her - is it worth just keeping quiet and enjoying your time together, because you might not see her again for years?

Dunroamin

Do you think that she sees you as being very comfortably off financially because you have a better lifestyle than she's used to?

Red_Elle

Comments about the cleanliness of my house to OH?! She'd be out on her ear and the food issue would just be a side issue in comparison. Even if you live in a tip, it's none of her business!

justme111

Why is your husband buying her food out if he does not.like then and spend time with her.at all. People sometimes don't think so its up to you whether you want to keep her in your life and lay the rules or keep quiet and never see her again.

kelpie35

amalis wrote: »

She was my BF, but I haven;t see her for 7 years and I never visited her place.

Well if that is how your BF treats you and your OH I think you need to find a new BF.;)