Feeling disgusted and upset

mcja

Cornish_piskie wrote: »

If you're getting your knickers in a twist about playgroup politics then you just wait til school :eek:

Indeed!!;)

pigpen

At playgroups I've been to.. everyone helps clear up.. not just the ones who run it.. parents, children, everyone.

She was wrong to shout after you but you were wrong to not help clear up!

I don't like playgroups anyway they are b!tchy places to be and cliquey and unpleasant but you go because you want your child to socialise.. it isn't all about you.

Maybe you should go back and next time help tidy up. Maybe she too felt unwell and hadn't eaten that day and was annoyed you didn't help and maybe she thinks because your husband helped set up the group you think you are special and should be treated differently to everyone else.. both valid reasons for her to be annoyed.

It may be worth speaking to her quietly at the next session and say if she wants you to help tidy things away she only has to ask but please don't shout after you like you are a toddler. Then move on with your life.. you say you don't want to be shouted at in front of your daughter, but what does running away and hiding teach her? Or not pulling your weight at tidy up time?

I think you are over-reacting for some reason.. we all do it, being the bigger person and facing things again is what makes the difference.

As for forbidding your husband to take her.. that is very silly and childish. Punishing your husband and daughter because of something so simple and easily smoothed over is quite ridiculous.

angelil

I agree with those who say that you have been petulant and childish.

And, to be honest, if you act/speak in the same way that you write on here, you'd get short shrift from me too.

securityguy

It sounds like the toddler group in question is well rid of the OP.

POPPYOSCAR

I do wish posters would consider the fragile state of mind that an OP might be in.

Hushpuppie have you decided how to handle this now you have had time to calm down and give it some thought?

Hushpuppie_2

she volunteered to run!!no one forced her and she admitted she had enough help yday so i dont understand her outburst..if she thinks (and i dont)that im being different because my husand set it up then she is being silly...ive always said i dont wish to be on commitee just a parent taking toddler to playgroup

Hushpuppie_2

pigpen wrote: »

At playgroups I've been to.. everyone helps clear up.. not just the ones who run it.. parents, children, everyone.

She was wrong to shout after you but you were wrong to not help clear up!

I don't like playgroups anyway they are b!tchy places to be and cliquey and unpleasant but you go because you want your child to socialise.. it isn't all about you.

Maybe you should go back and next time help tidy up. Maybe she too felt unwell and hadn't eaten that day and was annoyed you didn't help and maybe she thinks because your husband helped set up the group you think you are special and should be treated differently to everyone else.. both valid reasons for her to be annoyed.

It may be worth speaking to her quietly at the next session and say if she wants you to help tidy things away she only has to ask but please don't shout after you like you are a toddler. Then move on with your life.. you say you don't want to be shouted at in front of your daughter, but what does running away and hiding teach her? Or not pulling your weight at tidy up time?

I think you are over-reacting for some reason.. we all do it, being the bigger person and facing things again is what makes the difference.

As for forbidding your husband to take her.. that is very silly and childish. Punishing your husband and daughter because of something so simple and easily smoothed over is quite ridiculous.

im not punishing my child she goes to 3 groups a week

BitterAndTwisted

Fragile? Doubtful. I put her semi-coherence plus poor spelling and punctuation down to sheer red-misted anger.

Being angry is OK when someone has been unnecessarily rude to you but all the rest she described is just plain daft. Maybe once she's had a chance to calm down a bit she might be able to see that. I most certainly wouldn't want to jeopardise any chance of making friendships in a new neighbourhood over something so very trivial

Toothfairy4

It might be 'the norm' that the committee members do the tidying up, but i would say its just manners to lend a hand, especially when these people are volunteers and children can go there for free!

365days

Maybe your husband and her have been talking......Maybe she has the hots for him.......Maybe she doesn't like you........Maybe you are jealous that your husband has a new outlet....Maybe you are jealous of her.....Maybe she is jealous of you........Maybe you feel threatened by her..........Maybe you are angry with someone else and over reacting to her comment.............Maybe she is just a pure biatch.......Maybe you're lazy.

Who knows??

You can spend hours going round and round in your head.

Or just go next week and at tidy up time mention that you are so glad you can help this week as last week you had to rush off as you thought you were about to throw up.....in a 'loud' voice.