Feeling disgusted and upset

valk_scot

moneysaymoneydo wrote: »

Some hubby who stood there and let some random woman ignore you and your child, if I was you I would be getting a life and ignoring some saddo mum who thinks she is top dog at playgroup and be seriously considering that your husband has let you down by letting you be treated in this way, his child ignored at a playgroup he is on the committee ?!?! ... Am I missing something?

Actually, you might just be missing something...it's taken me this long to work out that the OP wasn't talking about a playgroup, with proper playleaders, she was talking about a mother and toddler group.

If a playleader ignored my child I'd be upset, yes, but at a M&T group there's no such thing as a playleader or indeed anyone "official" except the mums who give up their time to bring the tea and milk and take the cash and (in this case) set up and tidy up on their own. Does anyone seriously expect the volunteers that do this to do much else than say hi to folk when they come in, look after any new folk and look after their own child or children? At M&T group the person that should be looking after the child is their attending adult, it's not up to the committee volunteers to run around after the kids. Or go round and have an individual chat with each parent and child.

Of course the OP may also have got confused about this since she did say it was a playgroup, perhaps she was expecting a great deal more in the way of attention to her child as you say rather than her having to get her sleeves rolled up and pitch in as is the way in M&T groups. They are very, very different in arrangement after all.


I do remember at the M&T group I went to everyone, including the toddlers, helping to drag the equipment and such along to the storage cupboards. One mum used to deeply impress us by being able to breastfeed at the same time as pulling the wendy house along the hall AND looking after her toddler...shows how adept you get at childcare when you're on your fifth child, lol.

I suspect the OP is feeling she's entitled to behave differently than the other mums tbh, given her OH helped set up the group. And to get special attention/fawning from the volunteer leader...whereas the leader is probably thinking that if this family wanted the group set up that much, how come they're not pitching in with the day to day running of it?

balletshoes

moneysaymoneydo wrote: »

It was rude of this lady to blank you and your daughter during the playgroup session and then to speak to you as she did.


Ok original OP has deleted post which clearly stated this "alleged incident" the woman in question ignored her and her daughter, shameful for a young child to witness such disgraceful behaviour.

And whether husband there or not he has clearly organised this playgroup for I am assuming his own daughter to reap the benefits of so he needs to stand up and not permit random skanky woman disrespect his wife and daughter.

I doubt the toddler even noticed being ignored by a random woman she sees once a week.

the OPs husband, once she'd told him her version of events, did contact the woman and go over the rules of the playgroup, apparently.

I don't see how anyone can come to the conclusion that the playgroup leader was a skanky woman, just based on the OPs story.

pigpen

Hushpuppie wrote: »

im not punishing my child she goes to 3 groups a week

I'm not wrong with the rest of my post then.. just that one tiny picky point..

Yes you are punishing them both if that is the only one her daddy can take her to, even if it is just once.. he has as much right to take her as you do.. I'd be delighted if my OH took mine to play group.. I loathe going!

Though, previously you said this group was set up as there was a need implying there were no others.. now you say there are 4 to choose from

moneysaymoneydo

Ok sorry missing the point I have a bad day gives me the right to behave in such a manner, ok will remember for future I can be rude to kids and parents cause life sucks that day

Hmm loving the thought of these muvva and toddler groups poor daddy for trying to get involved no wonders they stay out these situations :rotfl:

victory

Oh my oh my not exactly worth worrying about if as you say you have 3 others to choose from and to involve your OH?

Why could you not sort it out yourself?

Feeling unwell is no excuse from simple politeness of an offer to help.

Goldiegirl

So at the other three playgroups, I wonder if she helps clear up there?

DevilsAdvocate1

kjmtidea wrote: »

This makes me sad , I know you didn't intentionally blank her but I know that feeling and it is horrible. I have been to so many unwelcoming toddler groups that I am now so paranoid about leaving people out at the toddler group I help out with. I watch the door like a hawk for newbies and talk to everyone :rotfl:

I do my best! At the time I was a registered childminder and as well as running the group totally on my own I had 3 children there with me, two 1 year olds and my own 3 year old. In addition, I was 6 months pregnant. Shortly after this I refused to get the toys out as no one was coming early to help. The group was supposed to start at half nine and everyone arrived at ten so that all the toys would already be out (and would moan if the hall was not setup). I think people thought I was paid to run it, but I was not, I was just doing it as a volunteer.

And she was not new. She worked shifts, so could only come once a month of so. If she had waited, other friends of hers would have arrived.