How can I fix this?

Bella73

OMG I can't quite believe that you are making excuses for this creep.

He sounds a right barrel of laughs...I assuming he looks like a God himself, six pack the lot right???

He is manipulating you. Nobody deserves to be treated the way he is treating you.

To be honest I think you should place all his stuff in bin bags, throw in garden/street...change locks and then start living your life.

SmarterNotHarder

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victory

Anon34 wrote: »

I should add to be fair I have done my fair share of accusing and making his life miserable! He was in daily text contact with a girl from work, and I saw messages asking her to meet him outside, he claims it was for a cigarette but I didn't believe him, he then starting texting another work colleague and deleting the messages, he even got her to buy my valentines present, as he was busy. Tbf I flipped over that. Completely flipped.
So I'm no angel. I do understand I'm not meeting his needs. But I just feel disrespected

If I had a husband who text messages another woman I would have flipped, there is no reason whatsoever a partner should do that and think that it's acceptable behaviour, his loyalties should lie with you

Anon34

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victory

When you see him does he make you smile?

Does he make you feel secure?

Loved?

Cared for?

Like you are the only woman he would ever need?

NO he doesn't, what happiness does he bring into your life?

Anon34

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pearl123

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He's sounds a complete !!!!!!. And I don't use that language lightly.
Don't waste any more time on him.

Can you really see yourself with him in 5, 10 15 years time! :eek:
He'll get worse.
Leave.

jayII

Run, like the wind, as far and as fast FROM him as you can!!!

What horrible, nasty and seriously creepy behaviour! Taking secret photos of a woman, posting it online and commenting on it is a really odd and weird thing to do. Doing this in front of you is designed to destroy your confidence and self-esteem.

Blaming you for his nasty, very odd and unpleasant behaviour is designed to destroy your confidence and self-esteem. Criticising your appearance and behaviour in is designed to destroy your self-esteem... do you see a pattern?

He will not change if you change, because he likes things as they are now... him getting away with nasty behaviour and you being increasingly ground down and emotionally destroyed, while blaming yourself for his behaviour.

He is an adult and as such he, and only he, is responsible for his behaviour.

balletshoes

Anon34 wrote: »

I should add to be fair I have done my fair share of accusing and making his life miserable! He was in daily text contact with a girl from work, and I saw messages asking her to meet him outside, he claims it was for a cigarette but I didn't believe him, he then starting texting another work colleague and deleting the messages, he even got her to buy my valentines present, as he was busy. Tbf I flipped over that. Completely flipped.
So I'm no angel. I do understand I'm not meeting his needs. But I just feel disrespected

no you're no angel - but you don't deserve the massive doses of disrespect you're getting in return. You really don't.

Let me ask you this - the way your OH is treating you, and the way you treat him. Do you think any of that is normal and respectful? Because what your daughter sees is what she'll accept as normal. You stay together, and as well as messing up each other's lives, you're messing up hers as well.

Toothfairy4

You has a miscarriage and he said you terminated because it was someone elses?!?!??!!!

No words for this man, what a piece of work.