Sometimes struggling with sense of loneliness and isolation; anyone else?

dandelionclock30

I think what you are saying is that you feel lonely and unfulfilled at weekends and although you have friends etc there is often not many people around then.

Its really upto you to meet people who are available and try to develop deeper friendships with people who have something to offer you. This obviously takes effort and luck to some extent.But its upto you to do this,nobody is going to come knocking at your door.

What do you think is the best way forward for yourself?

justme111

aliasojo wrote: »

Tbh though, I personally have always struggled with the 'change your outlook' type of advice. I think some types of people can embrace this and just *do* it, others like me wonder if we've been born with a missing switch because it seems unfathomable to be able to *just* change an outlook just like that.

I wish you well.

I think most do not have a switch and find it extremely difficult to change outlook. That's why I mentioned experiences , they seem to provide some momentum to move oneself to see the world from different angle. One can try and push different walls and one day one of them will move.

mummyroysof3

I am sure people do feel lonely sometimes and there have been some suggestions of the things they would do to solve it and you have the impression that's not what you are after. If you have a long draggy weekend ahead then to me it's a case of coming up with things o do to fill it or enjoying a quiet weekend

aliasojo

wildswans wrote: »

Do other people really honestly never feel a tiny bit lonely from time-to-time?

God yes. I used to post on here with personal stuff during those times and regretted it almost immediately. :rotfl:

paulineb_2

wildswans wrote: »

Oh dear - I'm not frustrated I'm just trying to reiterate what I mean. I am "saying" all my posts in a very friendly, measured sort of voice in my head!

I honestly came on here just with the idea of finding some other people like me maybe, who had jobs and friends but sometimes found that their friends were busy with other stuff and there was a long draggy weekend to feel and I have ended up being told I am depressed, need counselling and making enemies.

Please, can the thread just be deleted? I really don't think I'm going to explain myself here, I'm not offended, angry or frustrated but I AM a tiny bit surprised at some of the responses.

Do other people really honestly never feel a tiny bit lonely from time-to-time?

I dont think it was said that you needed counselling, it was just a suggestion.

Ive been through times in my life for different reasons where Ive been incredibly lonely and Im not going to explain the reasons why on here.

Yes its normal, yes I would imagine many people go through lonely spells in their lifetime. But if you aren't happy with the way your social life is going, its only you who can make efforts to change that.

But Im afraid if you post stuff up on the internet people are going to interpret what you have said in different ways and we have no control over what people will say in response and to be fair, reading the thread back, I think most people have tried to respond in a positive way towards you.

Cloudydaze

I think I feel a similar level of loneliness to the OP but where we differ is that I feel being single is the problem & finding a partner the solution.

justme111

Cloudydaze wrote: »

I think I feel a similar level of loneliness to the OP but where we differ is that I feel being single is the problem & finding a partner the solution.

Thats what I think as well and what I written earlier on here - it might be that human beings are meant to be in a couple.

paulineb_2

Cloudydaze wrote: »

I think I feel a similar level of loneliness to the OP but where we differ is that I feel being single is the problem & finding a partner the solution.

And if the relationship wasnt a happy one? Theres nothing more lonely than being in a relationship thats not working.

Or if it ends?

CH27

wildswans wrote: »

Oh dear - I'm not frustrated I'm just trying to reiterate what I mean. I am "saying" all my posts in a very friendly, measured sort of voice in my head!

I honestly came on here just with the idea of finding some other people like me maybe, who had jobs and friends but sometimes found that their friends were busy with other stuff and there was a long draggy weekend to feel and I have ended up being told I am depressed, need counselling and making enemies.

Please, can the thread just be deleted? I really don't think I'm going to explain myself here, I'm not offended, angry or frustrated but I AM a tiny bit surprised at some of the responses.

Do other people really honestly never feel a tiny bit lonely from time-to-time?

Is the house in silence when you are home?
Have you tried keeping the radio on as I find the sound of voices soothing as i'm pottering around.

justme111

paulineb wrote: »

And if the relationship wasnt a happy one? Theres nothing more lonely than being in a relationship thats not working.

Or if it ends?

Then one would be alone and lonely. Not everybody is lucky to have a relationship which is fulfilling , it does not mean that it is not an ideal state of things which would be an answer to those lonely times.