Is my partner right to feel aggrieved? Please help.

missscousemouse_2

Hi all im the partner!
I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who replied to my partners post. some of them were extremely helpful and summed up what i was trying to get across to him.

i love him very much and he is my best friend i was very hurt when he first told me his dads "curve ball" as we had only asked for £1800 for a matter of 2 weeks until my money came through from the house. it was a decision we both made
so when he came back with offering us £6000 for 2 years i was very shocked!
also just to let the people know with the negative comments the mortgage was in place before mine sold, but the minute my sale went through i asked my partner for us to go to the bank and include me with the mortgage so it was joint but he didnt want to do the credit checks again. also we knew we wouldnt lose the the new house if my house sale fell through.
the money i would get from my house sale would have been the £1800 back to his dad plus £4500 for the repairs also the cost of new kitchen and bathroom and we were going to book the wedding as soon as the money hit my account. i was also going to learn to drive as my partner has told me he wants me to.

i would like to point out ive been paying my own bills and morg and paid for everything me and my children need since my ex partner left me. me and mods sat down and worked a budget and even though i earn way less than him i will be trying to match him on outgoings he would have paid morg and i was paying all the bills and food equaling the same amount as morg. i have made it clear to him that my money from the sale will be ours and anything he would need to pay off etc i could do so out of that money.

as soon as he told me the curveball the first thing i said was so does that mean we cant get married because how i saw it was our plan of getting married and trying for a baby after buying the house had been changed by his parents so i was upset. i told him i didnt want to be a lodger to prove myself to his parents when we have been together for 4 years!.

i was only wanting to be on the mortgage after id put my money into house!

anyway thanks for the best wishes we had a great chat and sorted a lot out and yesterday i found us a nice house to rent so we should be moving in a couple of weeks.

tayforth

Thanks for posting, and I'm very glad that you two have sorted things out and cleared the air. Keep us posted on how you get on living together xxxx

Joons

Good luck, sounds like a much better option for you both, you don't want to be indebted to anyone, parents included and it was all sounding very messy and complicated re buying. Now you can buy at your leisure.

kelpie35

I hope you and your OH and children will be very happy in your rented home.
I am so pleased that things have worked out for you all, you sound like a lovely family.
Hope it will not be too long till you find a nice home that you can buy together.
Take care x