Visitor etiquette

balletshoes

Yorks museums are brilliant for kids ~ the railway museum and the castle museum have loads of interactive stuff to do.
isnt there a digging playland type place there too?

notanewuser

Person_one wrote: »

I bet you won't.

You're intelligent enough to google effectively, but being grumpy is more fun at the moment, I think.

You don't have to go, but its not the whole of Yorkshire's fault that your in-laws don't value your family!

I've already said that I want to go to meet the new baby, if nothing else. As we're leaving tonight it's a bit late to make DH go alone.

I'd like to make it a nice family weekend, but that doesn't mean that we can or will go anywhere. I've looked at the link that lasydaisy provided, and found the Winter Garden in Sheffield. There's not much else in the top 40 on there that isn't outdoors/adult oriented. Unless you think we should take a 2.5 year old paintballing.

But if you have suggestions, please share. I don't want to be stuck in a hotel room all weekend!!

Dunroamin

notanewuser wrote: »

It's 40 miles to York from where we're staying. So an hour each way. To do what? The Minster again?

I could list about a hundred fun things to do between my house and Cardiff (about 12 miles/20 minutes). Finding similar things in Yorkshire is proving much harder.

But if people want to suggest things in South Yorkshire I'll look at them. DD is recovering from a very nasty chest infection so don't really want her standing around in the cold and wet.

If your daughter is ill, why don't you cancel and claim on your travel insurance?

What will you be doing with her while you're visiting the new baby?

maman

notanewuser wrote: »

It doesn't matter how I put it, it's seen as criticism. His response is always just "that's how my family is".

aileth wrote: »

I feel for you with this as mine is the same. I see them taking advantage of him a lot, walking over him etc, and in his eyes they could do nothing wrong. I get the feeling they know this and just take advantage more.

Girlzmum wrote: »

It is so frustrating for her because he just wants to see his parents and he is so hurt by how they are behaving yet he immediately defends them when she brings it up.

I have this problem with my DH. It's OK for him to criticise his family but I can always tell if I've said too much. I've learned to tread carefully. This might sound a bit wimpy but I think of it as me adding to the hurt his family are already giving him. He's a dear man and he doesn't deserve that just so I can sound off my frustration.

I was interested when OP said her OH rarely goes with her to visit her family. Maybe there's an answer. I used to do that with my ex. It was patently obvious they had no interest in me just my DD (first and only girl). I made the odd duty visit (Christmas, birthday etc) and the rest of the time let him take DD over himself.

I read that OP goes regularly to Yorkshire and expects to go more often with the new additions. Who exactly has these expectations? Is it OP as she likes things done 'properly'? the in-laws? Her OH because he feels he wants to/should?

notanewuser

Dunroamin wrote: »

If your daughter is ill, why don't you cancel and claim on your travel insurance?

What will you be doing with her while you're visiting the new baby?

She's not ill. She's had a nasty chest infection in the past 2 weeks. She's back at nursery now etc. The weather here is appalling - cold and wet. The same is forecast up there. I don't want her standing in the cold and wet when she's only just better. I thought that was a sensible parental decision?

She'll be coming with us to see the baby, but I suspect she'll be more interested in playing with her 20 month old cousin.

balletshoes

OP you might already have looked but the kids days out website is good to get ideas for suitable activities etc in all areas of the UK.

notanewuser

balletshoes wrote: »

Yorks museums are brilliant for kids ~ the railway museum and the castle museum have loads of interactive stuff to do.
isnt there a digging playland type place there too?

Thanks. I'll have a look.

notanewuser

balletshoes wrote: »

OP you might already have looked but the kids days out website is good to get ideas for suitable activities etc in all areas of the UK.

I looked at "dayoutwiththekids" and drew a blank.

lostinrates

notanewuser wrote: »

They didn't forget - there have been messages flying around regularly in the past few weeks.

DH's family are 300 miles north of us, my family are 250 miles east of us!! I've not long seen them - DD and I went for a long weekend before Easter. DH rarely comes to visit them.

I want DD to know her cousins, aunties, uncles and grandparents, but I get the message loud and clear that they couldn't care less about her.

The hotel room can't be changed or moved unfortunately, and we need to meet our new nephew. Weather forecast is !!!! so I suppose I'd better find some indoor tourist attractions.

You visited you family with out your oh.....do you think his reception might be warmer at home if just he and your child went? Is that what is normal for his family?

red_devil

just because people are family dosent mean they will want to see you and spend time with you. It depends on the family of course. Families who have true family values and want to be together always will. they have a passion to be together and they are.


It seems to me that being family these days often dosent mean anything friends mean more to some people. It depends on the unit.