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coolcait

OP, you probably know by now that I really don't believe a word you say on any of your threads.

You may not yet know that it's not entirely due to you being caught out in a foray into sexually explicit AE-dom.

I just don't believe threads where the OP resolutely ignores, rebuts, and apparently 'reasons' away dozens of perfectly good suggestions on how to deal with the supposed problem.

(Sorry to any gloomster and doomster posters who are genuine, but just want to wallow in their misery. But, get a grip!)

If you're for real, put all of that ingenuity (all those reasons why it won't work :cool:) into finding a way to have a good weekend away. Use it to find a way to deal with the in-laws you so clearly despise. Remember that - if everything you have ever posted on MSE is the absolute truth - you are very far from being perfect yourself.

Ask yourself if you had another dramallama moment on this thread.

Then move on.

newbutold

Tropical world in Leeds is lovely. Also have a look at; http://www.cannonhallfarm.co.uk

*Robin*

valk_scot wrote: »

I think the key question is did you discuss with them if it would be a good weekend to visit before you booked? I have to say I don't actually think much of text messages in a case like this, I'd phone and have a chat rather than "I'm thinking of coming up 4/5/66, will you be around?" Then you can discuss what you can do re meals, food etc and it's more likely to be seen as a proper arrangement.

..Talk about planning ahead! :eek:

Firefly

Oh dear. That reminds me of the day my (now ex) in laws said " we can't stay because we are going out this evening". At our WEDDING reception!!!

notanewuser

Firefly wrote: »

Oh dear. That reminds me of the day my (now ex) in laws said " we can't stay because we are going out this evening". At our WEDDING reception!!!

seriously?! :eek:

notanewuser

valk_scot wrote: »

Babies don't have a fully developed immune system at that age, even if they're being breastfed. There's no comparison between the immune system of an adult person in good health and that of a new born. Plus there's a certain degree of resistance to each other's germs within a family who lives together. It's really not recommended to allow strangers with active infections (and for the purpose of this arguement, you are geographical strangers) to get too close to newborns, certainly not to touch, hold or kiss them. I'm sure you'd have felt pretty upset if your inlaws had turned up when your daughter was two weeks old and they were still coughing away from a persistant chest infection. Respiratory infections can be really dangerous for small babies.

I don't believe it's still an active infection, but I'll speak to baby's mum later today and see what she'd rather we do. Her mother is a nurse so she can check if necessary. We're 2/3rds of the way up to Barnsley now. I can see this weekend being a write off family wise.

notanewuser

coolcait wrote: »

OP, you probably know by now that I really don't believe a word you say on any of your threads.

You may not yet know that it's not entirely due to you being caught out in a foray into sexually explicit AE-dom.

I just don't believe threads where the OP resolutely ignores, rebuts, and apparently 'reasons' away dozens of perfectly good suggestions on how to deal with the supposed problem.

(Sorry to any gloomster and doomster posters who are genuine, but just want to wallow in their misery. But, get a grip!)

If you're for real, put all of that ingenuity (all those reasons why it won't work :cool:) into finding a way to have a good weekend away. Use it to find a way to deal with the in-laws you so clearly despise. Remember that - if everything you have ever posted on MSE is the absolute truth - you are very far from being perfect yourself.

Ask yourself if you had another dramallama moment on this thread.

Then move on.

Everything is 100% true, thank you. I'll admit I'm a stubborn mare, but the rest of your comments are uncalled for.

I don't despise DH's family, but I do despise their behaviour.

Anyway, onto plan B - fun weekend for us 3 which may or may not include seeing DH's family. And then bo11ox to them in the future.

Firefly

notanewuser wrote: »

seriously?! :eek:

Yes! Seriously. Strangely that marriage didn't last!

Dunroamin

Firefly wrote: »

Oh dear. That reminds me of the day my (now ex) in laws said " we can't stay because we are going out this evening". At our WEDDING reception!!!

My ex husband's only brother didn't come to our wedding at all because Manchester City were playing at home.

aileth

Dunroamin wrote: »

My ex husband's only brother didn't come to our wedding at all because Manchester City were playing at home.

Wow!!!!! That's incredible. Bit different, but I read about someone on the internet (so therefore it must be true) whose husband was so busy playing an online game that he didn't attend the birth of his child!