Existing, not living (Life)

spirit

justme111 wrote: »

It's too late for that lol. Basically everybody agrees fighting is not good , legal advice is a must . Am I right ?

are you trolling this thread? I can't see that you've brought anything of much use to the table.

justme111

Look better than. If you still don't see then please remember it is an internet forum and people can write what they see fit as long as it does not contradict forum rules.

Scorpio33

I think your kids are under the false impression that as you are both still living udner the same roof, then there is still hope that you can make up. You need to both sit down with your kids and tell them that it really is already over, and living together or not won't affect your relationship with them - in fact it may improve as you will get more quality time with them.

As for your ex using money to manipulate - let him. Be there for your kids with time and attention, somthing money can't buy. In the long run they will see through his manipulation, and will come running back. You have to let them make the mistake first though.

Good luck with clearing your debts and selling house - lots of good advice on this site for that.

RAS

OP

Be very very careful. If your younger daughter goes to live with your ex, then

1. He may well be able to stop the house being sold until she leaves secondary school.

2. He will get more than 50% of the assets of the marriage.

3. You will have to pay him 15% of your salary as child maintenance until she finishes secondary school and if he is crafty and gets her to stay an extra year that could be until she is 20.

Lots of incentives for daddy to make sure the youngest stays with him.

Do NOT move out until the house is sold, signed sealed and delivered. And get legal advice urgently from a good divorce lawyer.

duchy

removed -missed later updates

Treevo

RAS wrote: »

OP

Be very very careful. If your younger daughter goes to live with your ex, then

1. He may well be able to stop the house being sold until she leaves secondary school.

2. He will get more than 50% of the assets of the marriage.

3. You will have to pay him 15% of your salary as child maintenance until she finishes secondary school and if he is crafty and gets her to stay an extra year that could be until she is 20.

Lots of incentives for daddy to make sure the youngest stays with him.

Do NOT move out until the house is sold, signed sealed and delivered. And get legal advice urgently from a good divorce lawyer.

All of which can be met with the OP going after his vast pension.

duchy

OP Have you had ANY legal advice yet ?

RAS

duchy wrote: »

OP Have you had ANY legal advice yet ?

Please please get legal advice urgently. Given what is going on, I would be astounded if your ex has not already taken advice and knows exactly what games he has been playing.

glasgowsaver2011

I know why the police have never been involved.

he is a cop too!!

All the clues are in the first few posts:(

busiscoming2

glasgowsaver2011 wrote: »

I know why the police have never been involved.

he is a cop too!!

All the clues are in the first few posts:(

I've just re read the first few posts and can't see where you have gained that info from?