How to stop being misunderstood...

victory

Best way rather than that it dragging on....

floopnoodle

TBH I'm not surprised you're being misunderstood, I can't make head nor tail of that post.

gingin_2

She can't be all that great if she can't show her boyfriend's mother some respect.

It sounds like a difficult situation but I'd be hopeful that the relationship won't last if she can't be mature enough to attempt to get on for the sake of family harmony.

Assuming it's all one-sided

duchy

She's a drama queen -Leave her to get on with it.
If she doesn't want to come round then that's her choice - continue to invite her anyway - either she'll grow up a bit and stop needing to be the centre of attention all the time or your DS will get fed up with it always been about her and dump her.

If you aren't on any social networks how do you know what she's saying ? If people are "helpfully" telling you..... Just say you don't want to hear it . Stop feeding the situation. She is fishing for reaction and you're giving it to her.

pogofish

A lot of girls that age seem to thrive on attention/drama etc.

Develop a thicker skin, treat Facebook, Twitter etc with all the disrespect they deserve, recognise that its a parent's god-given right to be as baffling, confusing and embarrasing as possible to their youngsters and laugh at all the chaos that ensues!

She will grow out of it!

Mojisola

victory wrote: »

They have been together a long time, I like her, she is intelligent,very popular, very street wise, practical, sensible, clever and does masses for DS, all round a great girl.

There has been a few misunderstandings, they get sorted and we stumble onto another one..

Have you ever told her all that?

When things are going well, have you ever said to her - I think you're brilliant (see your list above) but we sometimes get crossed wires - if it happens again, let's sort it out quickly, I wouldn't ever intentionally upset you.

If that doesn't work, it might well be that she's being a bit dramatic or that there's something about your two personalities that doesn't mix. Does she ever react with other people the way she does with you?

sassyblue

victory wrote: »

OH says it is just teenagers being dramatic and silly and wanting a drama and I get named/caught in the middle of all of it...

Now it's got to so gf will not come round because DS is defending her saying she is scared of 'me mentioning anything/bringing it up/etc'

...... it's almost as if she is waiting for a drama, loves being in one, making things up so she looks great and I am the devil.

Your husband is right, your son is (probably) in love and can't see the wood for the trees and l think you are right in your opinion of her being a drama llama.

Let's hope your son has his eyes opened very soon, in the meantime just ignore her. She probably just watches too many soaps and too much jeremy kyle and thinks life has to be one big drama. :cool:

shegirl

It's hard to advise how to stop being misunderstood when we haven't got a clue what has been misunderstood and how

Alikay

I think a lot of girls are a nightmare at that age: Always creating or seeking out drama, even when there is seemingly nothing but a fairly innocuous difference of opinion!

I'd suggest whenever it kicks off again, you just smile serenely and remind yourself that she's just 18, and hasn't yet grasped that people have free will and in general won't always behave as she wants or expects them to. In time she will hopefully develop the grace and wisdom to deal with it

Eventually your son may decide he can't be bothered with such a high- octane relationship, but for now I think you'd be best to stay calm, say little and rise above it.

balletshoes

People state all sorts of nonsense on facebook.
You cant make her want to come round, by all means keep the invite open to her but try to ignore the social networking carp. she,s young, she,ll get over herself hopefully .

Errata

OH says leave them to it as I should, I agree with that, the 'hate' thing hurts.

He's right and you shouldn't feel any hurt at all. She's a mutation of a drama llama crossed with a five star diva. She's also a highly professional attention seeker. Be thankful you don't live in her house, curtains flying all over the place due to constant flouncing and door slamming going on left, right and centre must be deafening.