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How to stop being misunderstood...
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Maybe she just doesn't like you?
It's possible. If you don't like somebody, it doesn't matter what they do or don't do, even if it's exactly the same as somebody you do like, them doing it will really annoy you.
In any case, unless they're planning on having kids in the next few months, the odds are that she'll be gone by the end of the year. First relationships rarely work out these days, especially in cases where the parents are actively disliked to the extent of taking it online.
I'd be inclined to block her number and FB. Then let her moan online. You won't know and, to be honest, nobody will care.I could dream to wide extremes, I could do or die: I could yawn and be withdrawn and watch the world go by.Yup you are officially Rock n Roll
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op will not follow this advice because she will miss the dramaJojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »
I'd be inclined to block her number and FB. Then let her moan online. You won't know and, to be honest, nobody will care. The word "dilemma" comes from Greek where "di" means two and "lemma" means premise. Refers usually to difficult choice between two undesirable options.
Often people seem to use this word mistakenly where "quandary" would fit better.0 -
op will not follow this advice because she will miss the drama
I know you are just trying to be comical at someone else's expense and if that makes you feel good, oh bless, the thread clearly states I was asking how to stop it...:D0 -
Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »Maybe she just doesn't like you?
It's possible. If you don't like somebody, it doesn't matter what they do or don't do, even if it's exactly the same as somebody you do like, them doing it will really annoy you.
In any case, unless they're planning on having kids in the next few months, the odds are that she'll be gone by the end of the year. First relationships rarely work out these days, especially in cases where the parents are actively disliked to the extent of taking it online.
I'd be inclined to block her number and FB. Then let her moan online. You won't know and, to be honest, nobody will care.
I have thought about that, it's funny though because aside from the misunderstandings we have a laugh, she is very smart and chatty and friendly and good company.
I think it is hard taking the witchiness that I have heard goes on behind my back....0 -
victory, when a child complaints endlessly about his forearms being scratched by a cat and asks what can be done about it everybody advises the child to stop playing with a cat. the child does not listen and it goes on and on.
you asked, you been advised to stop interacting with her many times. you , on another hand, decide to talk with/about it even more so the only pupose of this thread is to entertain saddos like me The word "dilemma" comes from Greek where "di" means two and "lemma" means premise. Refers usually to difficult choice between two undesirable options.
Often people seem to use this word mistakenly where "quandary" would fit better.0 -
to get to her level or to bring her into the fold or to make her feel wanted whichever the wording is I asked for help with something I could easily do myself (techy stuff knew how to) so we could have something in common, bond, she would feel useful and wanted etc and then I told her how patient she is , clever etc (not in a patronizing was although it is written when reading back as so but it was not like that at all it was to make her relax, to show we could be together etc and it worked but the bomb has gone off again)
Sorry, I'm a bit late to this party, I've been away for a few days and this may have been said already. But I have to say, why are you making so much effort to bond with this girl?
Yes, she's your son's girlfriend, but she's not his wife, they don't have children, they are very young and this may not be the girl he ends up spending his life with anyway. At 18/19 I would have found it seriously creepy if my then BF's mum had tried to be friends with me, it's not necessary.
Just let her know she's welcome to your home, be polite and back off. It'll save all the heartache of trying to be embroiled in her over-dramatic life.Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence and face your future without fear0 -
Well almost everyone has told you to stop trying to be her "mate" and let her get on with her teenage drama queen posturings with the other teens -but you obviously don't want to be the grown up and will continue to pick at it -and inflame things all over again so there really isn't much more to be said except to wonder why you asked if you had already decided what to do <shrug>I Would Rather Climb A Mountain Than Crawl Into A Hole
MSE Florida wedding .....no problem0
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