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How to stop being misunderstood...

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  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    edited 3 May 2013 at 3:10AM
    best way now...
    misspiggy wrote: »
    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
  • pigpen
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    victory wrote: »
    It is easy to say I am the adult, the child is the child, grow up, stop getting into the drama and that is right, absolutely right, I never asked for this or need it or can be bothered with it most of the time but will own up to being hurt that it was said 'she hates me' I mean wow, anyone would question what has been said or done to come up with that one?

    No, they wouldn't.. they would laugh at her silly behaviour and carry on with their own lives.

    My son 'hates' carrots.. seriously.. do you see upset carrots?
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  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    edited 3 May 2013 at 3:10AM
    best way now...
    misspiggy wrote: »
    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    pigpen wrote: »
    No, they wouldn't.. they would laugh at her silly behaviour and carry on with their own lives.

    My son 'hates' carrots.. seriously.. do you see upset carrots?

    pigpen the analogy is not the same as a person to person hate, I am sure your son does not like/dislikes carrots, hate is a completely massively powerful different emotion...
    misspiggy wrote: »
    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
  • Mojisola
    Mojisola Posts: 35,571 Forumite
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    victory wrote: »
    Yes I have been told she does drama/over react to things...

    If she's known to be like this, very few people will take her rantings seriously.
  • Pixiechic
    Pixiechic Posts: 801 Forumite
    victory wrote: »
    I didn't want to be too specific because of maybe people reading but the latest one was a text message that had one word in it that could have been used in 2 different ways, sorry read in 2 different ways (not that I was ever aware of this at all) and drama took it the second way, never came back to me with it went to DS, friends, facebook etc and before you know it boom, bomb goes off, it really is like that, that simple, that easy, that teenagerish, that way...

    So she's over sensitive to anything you say and reads the wrong things into it. I think that I would focus on your son, making sure that this didn't become an issue between you two.

    Just try to ignore her drama, if she wants to read into things the wrong way then there isn't really much you can do!

    Just a thought though, whats her relationship like with her own parents?
  • CH27
    CH27 Posts: 5,531 Forumite
    victory wrote: »
    I have words with DS, calm, this is maddening, madness, can't you see how this is ridiculous, get her round, etc etc and he goes all defensive all for his gf, all anyone can post what they like on facebook, all 'I'm not getting into this, just leave it' and he is in love, he is thinking with his ....:rotfl:

    Back right off.

    Chat as normal to your son.
    Be civil & friendly to his GF when possible.
    Ignore Facebook etc.
    If you don't give them the drama they can't feed off it.
    Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.
  • balletshoes
    balletshoes Posts: 16,610 Forumite
    victory wrote: »
    It is easy to say I am the adult, the child is the child, grow up, stop getting into the drama and that is right, absolutely right, I never asked for this or need it or can be bothered with it most of the time
    but will own up to being hurt that it was said 'she hates me' I mean wow, anyone would question what has been said or done to come up with that one?

    see this is why there are loads of misunderstandings between you - you see the word "hate" as she literally hates you. As has been said already, "hate" to her could mean "she didn't agree with me about something". It could be that pointless.

    She is most definitely a drama llama. While your son is going out with her, he'll defend her, its his job. Don't put him in the middle, don't put him in that position, because while he's with her, you'll lose.
  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    edited 3 May 2013 at 3:11AM
    best way now...
    misspiggy wrote: »
    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    Pixiechic wrote: »
    So she's over sensitive to anything you say and reads the wrong things into it. I think that I would focus on your son, making sure that this didn't become an issue between you two.

    Just try to ignore her drama, if she wants to read into things the wrong way then there isn't really much you can do!

    Just a thought though, whats her relationship like with her own parents?

    Lots of shouting and standing their ground etc I have been told but never seen it....
    misspiggy wrote: »
    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
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