Savings when seperating- scared I will lose it all

LannieDuck

I can't quite remember (it's been some time...!) do you work and he doesn't?

If you both work, I can't see why he'd expect you to pay his rent?

NAR

LannieDuck wrote: »

I can't quite remember (it's been some time...!) do you work and he doesn't?

If you both work, I can't see why he'd expect you to pay his rent?

He does work and he would pay the rent. His credit rating is shot to hell, so he has asked TWM to extend "her" lease so he can stay on.

LannieDuck

Ahh, I see. Has he actually spoken to the landlord about whether he'd been accepted as a tenant in his own right?

stripey1969

You're going through two of the most stressful experiences there are in life - divorce and moving house. Of course you're going to be feeling exhausted and upset, anyone would. You just have to trust that you've made the right decision, and keep doggedly heading towards that light at the end of the tunnel. You've done the hardest bit, the bit that took the most courage. Things can only get better from here! When he's being a d*ck, just imagine us all behind you, cheering you on. You can do it! xx

teawithmilk

Hello all, Im looking forward to my holiday with DD next week. Just booked a cheap hotel but I'm still over-analysing things. I get stressed now at the slightest thing as if making any sort of decision and sticking to it is impossible for me! ...and im now worrying that Im wasting money by hiring a car- its costing me £100 for the week to hire which I could save if I took my own car. But Im going to be putting around 1500 miles on the clock and my own car broke down last week so I figured a nice new hire car would a) not break down and spoil the holiday and b) would avoid the wear and tear on my old banger....But I still can't help feeling its not very MSE!

Husband is still blowing hot and cold- sometimes he seems quite reasonable e.g. yesterday when I dropped DD off he offered me some spare food that he had got on offer at the supermarket that was too much for him to use on his own. But the day before he had been arguing with me about not telling him until the last minute where I was taking DD on holiday and made some nasty comments about my mums health.

Just waiting for the decree nisi now I think and hoping he doesnt engage a solicitor who might start sniffing around my bank accounts......

NAR

TWM I think you are very wise hiring the car for reasons stated. It is MSE, because how much extra would it cost if your own car broke down while on holiday?

Where are you with the new house purchase? Your solicitor knows your financial situation but you need to have your nest egg largely used up as the house deposit before you come to drawing up the Financial Consent Order, splitting the finances of the marriage.

thorsoak

Hiring the car IS very MSE ....if your own car is not very reliable you are (a) going to be worried about getting there/getting back and will feel that you shouldn't use it whilst on holiday "just in case" - which means that you might not get everything out of the holiday that you want.

(b) If it does breakdown then you will incur even more expense in getting it repaired/getting it home/getting yourselves home.

Enjoy the holiday - just for once, forget about all your cares and just take life as it comes! Things happen if you worry and even if you don't worry!

thorsoak

....Another thought - when you get back from your holidays, why don't you look into getting a newer car when you put down the deposit on the new home - and "generously" offer OH the old one ..........

kelpie35

Hope you and DD enjoy your well earned break.

NAR

thorsoak wrote: »

....Another thought - when you get back from your holidays, why don't you look into getting a newer car when you put down the deposit on the new home - and "generously" offer OH the old one ..........

He can't drive - see post #77.