Savings when seperating- scared I will lose it all

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Actually, thinking about it, to stop him damaging the property and costing you a fortune in repairs, I'd call the police, get them to escort him from the premises and take his keys (I've had this done in similiar circumstances). He has no 'right' to live there. I only say this because I know from experience you will never be seen as anything but the 'bad' person in this situation by your ex. Nothing you do will change that. You ought to hear my ex go on about me (and I did find him somewhere else to live lol).., I'm a thief, a liar blah blah. I just laugh about it now because I know what is the truth, and it just proves (as if I needed it) that I was right about him. The last thing u need is to have the old house wrecked.

teawithmilk

the only way he seems comfortable with communicating with me at the moment is by text message. . .which is fair enough. But tonight he has sent me two text messages with complicated questions about the divorce petition. I dont know the answers but I dont want to put him off returning the petition. . .and my solicitor is on holiday at the moment.
I cant get on wikivorce as i have forgoten my password and it has to be emailled to work!

he is saying that the paperwork says he has to pay my costs. .is that standard?

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he is saying that the paperwork says he has to pay my costs. .is that standard?

Looks like it - and I found this with one minute's googling, he could do the same.

Your solicitor will then send the divorce petition to the court. The petition sets out whether you will be asking your husband or wife to pay for the costs of the divorce or to provide some other sort of financial support for you or your children. The court will send a copy of the petition to your husband or wife for their solicitor to reply.

Once your husband or wife or their solicitor has replied to the petition, you will need to confirm your intention to go ahead with the divorce application by making a sworn statement or ‘affidavit’. Your application is then lodged with the court. If your husband or wife does not reply or cannot be found, your solicitor will tell you the methods for overcoming this.

paulineb_2

teawithmilk wrote: »

the only way he seems comfortable with communicating with me at the moment is by text message. . .which is fair enough. But tonight he has sent me two text messages with complicated questions about the divorce petition. I dont know the answers but I dont want to put him off returning the petition. . .and my solicitor is on holiday at the moment.
I cant get on wikivorce as i have forgoten my password and it has to be emailled to work!

he is saying that the paperwork says he has to pay my costs. .is that standard?

You are under no obligation to answer his questions, let him get a lawyer.

neneromanova

I would just reply I have been advised by my solicitor for you to seek advice of his own. That way you're not giving him wrong advice

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neneromanova wrote: »

I would just reply I have been advised by my solicitor for you to seek advice of his own. That way you're not giving him wrong advice

That would be sensible if the OP's solicitor had given the OP that advice. Personally, I'd ignore the email.

triple_choc_chip

teawithmilk wrote: »

the only way he seems comfortable with communicating with me at the moment is by text message. . .which is fair enough. But tonight he has sent me two text messages with complicated questions about the divorce petition. I dont know the answers but I dont want to put him off returning the petition. . .and my solicitor is on holiday at the moment.
I cant get on wikivorce as i have forgoten my password and it has to be emailled to work!

he is saying that the paperwork says he has to pay my costs. .is that standard?

So now you're going to pay your solicitor £200 an hour to advise him as well? Ignore him and force him to grow up and fend for himself.
Stay strong.

teawithmilk

Im sorry I dont have a computer at new house, just my smartphone so it is difficult to type and also difficult to go on google properly. Yes I think id better just ignore his text messages for the moment. .my solicitor did say some time ago that he ought to get his own legal advice. . .i just dont want him being put off sending back the petition as that would also cost me more in the end. . .he has just texted to say he wants DD to give him a call. . . wonder what thats about as he never usually asks her to call on an evening

teawithmilk

seriously wishing I had just seperated from him now. . .divorce just seem so complicated and even paying 200 pounds an hour for a solicitor doesnt seem to be giving me any insight!

paulineb_2

teawithmilk wrote: »

seriously wishing I had just seperated from him now. . .divorce just seem so complicated and even paying 200 pounds an hour for a solicitor doesnt seem to be giving me any insight!

Why?

You want a clean break from him and its the best thing for you in the long term.