Daughter being bullied at school and via the internet

Treevo

She has a hygiene problem so 'it's not practical for her to have a daily bath' doesn't come into it. Make it practical.

kjmtidea

Personally I would delete her facebook account and she can email her friends. I would also buy her this http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B001O1M6II/ref=oh_details_o08_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

meritaten

Treevo wrote: »

She has a hygiene problem so 'it's not practical for her to have a daily bath' doesn't come into it. Make it practical.

my feelings too Treevo - I don't want to be harsh - but if the family has a bathroom then surely DD can bathe every morning? even if she has to get up 15 minutes earlier?

also - BO can be caused by other things - not just bad hygiene. a trip to the GP could help. worth checking out, as someone I know was badly affected by BO and it turned out to be a medical matter - cant remember the name of it but the GP soon sorted it.

surfboard2

In regards to facebook, you may want to change the settings so people can't search for her. Also, have them set so she can't receive messages from people she isn't friends with.

If you can, i think fb even gives an option to report pages.

As for the BO problem, i remember a girl at school being bullied for the exact same thing.

Bathing/showering daily is key along with a good antiperspirant that works well for her. I've gone through several brands to find what works well for me. Might even be a diet issue?

I hope you get the issue with the school sorted.

emsywoo123

dori2o wrote: »

It isn't practical at the moment to have a bath everyday and we don't have a shower. She has a full strip wash every morning and at night (on the nights she doesn't have a bath) with her Mum so we know she has one and doesn't just run the tap.

She uses 24 hours anit-persperant and tops up during the day.

She has a new school shirt on everyday, but she only has 2 school jumpers, owing to the fact they are almost £20 each. She has them on for 2 days max.

I don't understand.

Why can't she have a bath everyday? Clearly for the poor love, what she is doing now isn't working. And what age is she to be having a strip wash "with her mum".

Finally, with this problem she *really* can't wear her jumper for 2 days in a row! Fresh clean clothes every day are an absolute must for her!!!

Spendless

I have had a similar problem with my DD though not via facebook as she is younger. 2 incidents occurred over the Easter hols, one on school premises during a holiday activity running there. We have gone to school about it and they have dealt with it, even the incident that happened outside of school, because it is part of a wider issue, that children in my daughter's year think it is acceptable to behave in the way they do towards her. Do what you can to stop it, take them off facebook, change her security settings, but involve the school as the kids concerned need to understand that their behaviour is wrong.

laurel7172

There are channels through which schools can approach Facebook to have inappropriate material taken down these days. I haven't had to test it personally (I teach ICT in a primary school), but the school should definitely be taking this very seriously indeed. If they aren't, then, yes, as a parent I would be straight onto the PCSO with my screenshots. I wouldn't approach the girls' parents myself-that can cause all sorts of problems. And block those girls, NOW.

The irony is that by giving them a shock now, you'll be doing those young ladies a favour. There is no delete button on the internet, and they're destroying their digital reputation before they have the sense to realise they have one.

I do know a Facebook happy ending-one of my daughter's best friends was being bullied and excluded at school, but found her way into DD's friendship group through friend-of-a-friend and liking the same bands. So it isn't all bad, all of the time. As in life, you just have to choose your friends carefully.

I do hope your DD feels better soon xxx

notanewuser

No way would I allow my daughter to use antiperspirant - the ingrediants can cause cancer. Get her some pitrok - not easy to find but it stops the smell before it starts so that it doesn't need masking. And no nasties.

bodmil

With regard to the deodorant try the butter stick ones that apply quite a thicker layer of paste instead of the spray or roll one ones.

Treevo

notanewuser wrote: »

No way would I allow my daughter to use antiperspirant - the ingrediants can cause cancer. Get her some pitrok - not easy to find but it stops the smell before it starts so that it doesn't need masking. And no nasties.

I assume you'll be able to back up that statement with a multitude of peer-reviewed studies?