Daughter being bullied at school and via the internet

Joons

I wish my stepson would shower more, lucky if it's once a week and only cos my OH forces him. The only comfort I have is he's saving me a fortune on my gas bills!

thunderbird

msb5262 wrote: »

This thread seems to have become exclusively focused on BO rather than on teenage bullying - is it just me or is that quite strange?

Even stranger now that the OP has stated that the BO isn't a problem any more! :rotfl:

jee

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

.

Yes but we have moved on since then and dont have to live like that anymore.Thank God. A few years before that people had tin baths and thought that was adequate.
All the adults I know have a bath or shower everyday.The only people I know who have strip washes have disabilities which stop them climbing into the bath.

Well actually I should have made it clearer that this was while in the bath but having water run into the bucket contantly.
It was just an option as OP said he couldn't attach a shower and a bath was not practical. Plus this is monre thorough than standing at a sink having a strip wash as you contantly pour water over yourself as you would when showering.

Bangton

thunderbird wrote: »

Even stranger now that the OP has stated that the BO isn't a problem any more! :rotfl:

In his first post just 3 days ago she was suffering from BO..no mention of it starting to get better.

Maybe that is the case but I'm suspicious. No disrespect to the OH. I just get the sense he is saying it to get us off his back.

Surely you would post that she HAD a problem with BO which they had now rectified but the bullying had continued. Maybe that's just me.

Either way I've personally focused on BO because it wasn't THAT long since I was a teenager myself and I can remember if you had BO, spots, dandruff...you were going to get a grilling. I think it's vile but this is teenagers we are talking about, it's about being with the clique..if the clique is bullying someone for BO then a host of sheep will be on board. Lots of people are bullied for no reason but if you can see a potential reason, that could be rectified you'd do your best to rectify it...showers/baths daily etc. If it persisted you would take her to the doctors as of course it could be a medical problem but I think first and foremost the most likely thing is a strip wash is not enough for OPs daughter. It wouldn't be enough for me!

Saturnalia

daska wrote: »

It's not a symptom in most cases but yes, I have a friend who was diagnosed as a result of going in complaining about unusually strong BO, for her, and ended up with a type 1 diagnosis. The acetone smell is far more common but apparently, yes, it can be a deal more pungent - I'm guessing it could possibly the interaction of the diabetes smell and diet or other problems?

OK. I'm just concerned people could read this and put off going to the doctor, thinking that they can't have diabetes as they don't smell bad. Whereas BO normally isn't a symptom of diabetes at all, let alone one of the first symptoms as you said in post 128.

The symptoms to look for are the 4 Ts:
Thirst, very strong, nothing will get rid of it
Tiredness - all the time
Thinness - Sudden extreme weight loss
Toilet - peeing a lot, especially noticeable if you start needing to wake up to pee at night.

Even the acetone smell doesn't come in until the sugar levels are extremely high and by this point, coma is not far off.

thorsoak

My take on this thread is this - the OP (the father ) took the masculine (-ie "offensive") attitude to the bullying attack on his daughter - and decided to go after the offenders by using the means that the bullies have used to attack his daughter to attack them.

What most people on here have done (and I do realise that I am generalising) is take the "feminine attitude - ie ensure that there is nothing for the bullies to comment upon. The OP in his first post admitted - very casually - that his daughter did have a BO problem - and whilst most posters focused on that, he seemed to treat it quite casually. The OP seemed to think that the home conditions precluded the daughter implementing the regime suggested by most posters - but that the BO is no longer a problem - but still asks for answers about contacting the perpertrators of the bullying.

How does his daughter feel about this, I wonder? Does she feel more confident that she can handle the bullying? Or does she feel that she needs to spray herself with deodorant on the hour, every hour? Poor little girl! She needs to feel confident in herself!