Daughter being bullied at school and via the internet

bodmil

Is school bullying really a matter for the police these days? I'm sorry but it sounds like she's been teased about something that was sadly true for a time and she's made great steps to combat it, showing great strength of character.

She's obviously got very close friends and you're very open in your family communication if you've asked their opinion as to whether she smells or not still, which I suppose is good to hear.

I don't wish to belittle the awful online bullying that happens where children suffer in silence, but this doesn't seem to be the case. Is it worth teaching her a few quick witted retorts so that she doesn't have to hide from those teasing her and can get on with school life?

I'm not sure where I sit on the matter myself but I don't think the police should be getting involved everytime someone says something nasty on facebook. Teach her that people say nasty things for a number of reasons and that it's 9 times out of 10 their problem and not her's.

balletshoes

The thing with online bullying is its so invasive, there is no escape from it if you are its target, even at home, where we can usually feel safe.
Personally i would want the bullies parents to know what their kids are taking the time to write on public forums, and if it continued then yes, i,d be informing the police.

I,m aware not everyone will agree with me on this issue, but i have an extended family member who took her own life 2 years ago at age 15 due to online bullying, and just 3 days ago a 14~year old at my daughters school did the same thing. it needs to stop and the bullies who do this should be challenged.

eta - I do agree that in this particular case, as something is being done already, there may be no need to involve the police.

beckysbobbles1

I'm sorry OP but I haven't read all the replies.

First off, perhaps your daughter could shower every morning. That's what I do before work and I feel free all day.

Some deorderants may cause more issues. Sure roll on is good then possibly perfume.

As others have said, by blocking the people of FB will get rid of them virtually but not in real life.

She shouldn't have to change the person she is but if she does make a few changes perhaps others will notice and not pick on her.

No one should be bullied. I was also bullied at school and my biggest regret is not standing up for myself.

Person_one

KxMx wrote: »

If underarm hair is thick enough and long enough then it will make any BO problems worse and I would agree in that case with the recommendation of removal.

Keeping clean and fresh is alot harder with lots of thick body hair in the way!

I manage it, with probably a lot more hair than a pubescent girl!

As long as you wash properly every day so that its clean, underarm hair will make no difference. Telling a young girl she should start shaving and get into the bizarre lifelong ritual of constant hair removal so many women are sucked into is not a good idea.

gazzak_2

OP, I had an issue with my eldest Daughter in year 8 when she got some abuse on Facebook, particularly from one girl who threatened her.

I spoke with the head of year, and emailed her the threats, and she was just fantastic. She got the girl and her parents in to school and told them in no uncertain terms that this was unacceptable and if it happened again then she would be suspended from school. The head of year was not a lady to be messed with and hated bullies with a passion.

Since then absolutely no problems.

Your own Daughters school needs to "grow a pair" and nip this in the bud. Perhaps with enough pressure from you they might actually do something?

bitemebankers

gazzak wrote: »

Your own Daughters school needs to "grow a pair" and nip this in the bud. Perhaps with enough pressure from you they might actually do something?

Unfortunately there are still quite a few schools whose leadership teams regard bullying as acceptable and something they don't need to act on. It's not really a question of growing a pair - it's that they don't actually give a damn. The threat of legal action and the involvement of the police normally spurs them into action though, if only to save their own skins.

j.e.j.

Person_one wrote: »

I manage it, with probably a lot more hair than a pubescent girl!

As long as you wash properly every day so that its clean, underarm hair will make no difference. Telling a young girl she should start shaving and get into the bizarre lifelong ritual of constant hair removal so many women are sucked into is not a good idea.

I agree with you, but it would be a brave teenage girl who just let her underarm and other hair grow!

Person_one

j.e.j. wrote: »

I agree with you, but it would be a brave teenage girl who just let her underarm and other hair grow!

It would, but if she's not yet shaving then it would be wrong to tell her she has to start and impose that on her before she decides herself.

Its bad enough that they come under so much pressure to be weirdly hairless from everybody else without their parents starting!

jee

OP when I was a teen we didn't have a shower but in the mornings before school I used to fill a bucket with hot water and use a jug to pour water over my self and have a proper wash. It's just as good as a shower.

thunderbird

the OP has stated that his daughter is no longer suffering with BO