Too late to back out? (Meeting a guy from Facebook)

marisco_2

Amanda65 wrote: »

concentrate on your little boy (who was not from your relationship with UK Nick if my memory serves me correctly), speak to your psychiatrist here about your trust and attachment issues, delete NZ Nick from all methods of electronic and social media and go out on the day he is due to vist.

:eek:

There is a child in the middle of all this? Good grief OP start putting your son first by seeking proper help for your issues. Your son should be your main focus right now, not a man who is planning to cheat on his wife and wreck his own family for a cheap bunk up.

This 'Nick' is not helping you address all your problems, he is tricking you and taking advantage of your vulnerability for his own selfish reasons. Can you truly not see that?

Penny-Pincher!!

Most men go through a mid life crisis when they think they're not getting enough at home or the grass is greener etc.

He's viewing you a quick sh$g and is showing no respect to you and especially none for his wife and kids. I'm shocked that you have no respect for your self either!

Christian.......laughable!!

This is reality and you WILL get hurt!! He will never leave his wife and kids for you. Have you ever watched Catfish??

StuC75

Sounds like a 'groomer', whos moved on from children to impressionable adults..If your happy to be another victim..

tigercubx wrote: »

He's not a psychologist, he studied it as he works with emotionally damaged children who refuse to speak as well as kids who've had strokes and stuff. x

coinxoperated

WOAH!! I didn't realise that the OP had a poor kid in all of this!

In that case, it changes my advice somewhat.

YOU decided to bring a child into this world. Abortions are available should you not have wished to do this, alongside several forms of contraception.

Therefore YOU have a DUTY to protect your child, AND yourself, both mentally and emotionally so you are ale to fulfil the duty of being a parent.

Rubbish things happen in life, but you are putting yourself into a situation where you will be emotionally and mentally distraught at the end of this. You CANNOT allow yourself to become this way whilst caring for a child.

The Internet can be an excellent way of meeting new people / partners,'I even met my OH on plenty of fish . com! Did I pick the first man I met? NO. Do you know how many married men were willing to 'meet up' for a 'discreet meet'? 100s.

But you see - I don't have children, and therefore would have not taken some of the risks I did to meet some of the weirder men should I be responsible for a child. The risk is too big here.

On a more professional note, and I'm just gonna put this out there....

He taken advantage of yor vulnerable situation, knowing you will feel like this and knowing your a 'goer' so to speak. You are purely this obsessed with him because your lonely and think he's the answer.

For a man who works with extremely vulnerble children, I'm sickened to think he may be taking advantage of them in some way also.

There are certain boundaries professionals of such nature NEVER cross. Cheating on their wives isn't one of them, but taking advantage of a vulnerable person is.

OP - I think some of the replies have been a bit harsh to you. You do ce across as naive and stupid, and very childish. But you remind me very much of my younger sister who, however much everybody tries to save her from herself, she does whatever it is anyway.

Don't expect sympathy when it all goes wrong on here, that is not what this forum is for.

Please just cut him off. Don't allow him to block you on sites, take control. BLOCK HIM! Tell him you either want him fully, or not at all. No inbetween. Don't compromise. It has to be you or his wife. In the meantime, block him on everything. If he's that serious, he'll get in touch somehow.

Consider this an opportunity to turn your life around. Set yourself some better standards. If you really want to god a loving partner, write a list of some things that HAD to come with the 'package'.

Mine was this:

1: nice smile!
2: wants to work and does work!
3: no kids!
4: no messy ex-wife / current wife baggage!
5: kind and caring
6: no long term far-away commitments, such as going off to a uni for a long time in 6 months etc
7: must be good in bed (if we're making a list.. May aswell add it in!)

Your list must obviously include your child and how they will fit into your scenarios. You must not put your child through having a string of 'daddies'.

I'm trying to make it simpler for you, but the basic message is:

Have some self-respect, keep your legs shut and concentrate on being a mum first.

Mojisola

tigercubx wrote: »

My older sister lives in New Zealand. I haven't seen her in years but she added me on Facebook last Christmas. I have struggled with depression for several years and we got talking about it, and she said that her friend is a speech therapist for children but as part of his training he had studied psychology and conditions such as depression in detail over quite a long period of time.

He is the one who began flirting with me & before long we were skyping everyday. Sexual conversations, sexual webcam chats, etc.

Have you told your sister what you are up to with this man?

victory

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

So is this the same 'nick' you used to live with back in January whom you thought was carrying on with your cousin?

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4387525

hmmm :think:

I remember that thread but never put two and two together:eek:

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

Seems like the OP has had some bad experiences with people called Nick...and Skype...and Facebook. You really need to steer clear of these things, it'll make your like much better. Or stop making up stories like several other people have said.

sweetpea26

coinxoperated wrote: »

And as an Athiest myself, the fact he's 'Christian' just enforces my belief even more. The amount of times I've seen other professionals judge someone on their religion and assume they are good or decent people amazes me.

If someone insists on abiding by a over-published brain washing book, well... It could have easily been little red riding hood... And he could easily be playing the wolf character.

Do not ever trust someone based on their religion. It's most countries

failings!

Disgraceful comment.

How dare you. You are entitled to your opinion just don't insult those of us who do not hold your beliefs. Comparing God's Word to Little Red Riding Hood shows the type of person you really are.

Who says this man is a Christian. He is telling her that he is ... doesn't mean that he is does it? He is a groomer and willing to do anything to pull this vulnerable young woman in.


I am pressing the report button for the above comment and would appreciate that others would do the same.

heartbreak_star

sweetpea26 wrote: »

I am pressing the report button for the above comment and would appreciate that others would do the same.

No, because she's right IMO. Not just with Christianity, with all religions.

People assume religion = goodness. It doesn't. I know as many good atheists as religious people. Religion has caused more wars and bloodshed than anything else on this green earth.

So report it if you like - but don't expect us to do the same!

OP - have you decided what to do yet?

HBS x

angelsmomma

sweetpea26 wrote: »

Disgraceful comment.

How dare you. You are entitled to your opinion just don't insult those of us who do not hold your beliefs. Comparing God's Word to Little Red Riding Hood shows the type of person you really are.

Who says this man is a Christian. He is telling her that he is ... doesn't mean that he is does it? He is a groomer and willing to do anything to pull this vulnerable young woman in.


I am pressing the report button for the above comment and would appreciate that others would do the same.

Have reported too as deeply offensive to me as a Christian