Boyfriend & younger cousin, don't know what do to!

tigercubx

My younger cousin told me today via facebook that my boyfriend had been sending her explicit messages, and that he'd exposed himself on skype to her. I decided to check his skype because I know the password and there's a chat log, but only a few words. It says that a call was started between them both for the duration of 49 minutes. Should I confront him?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

How much younger are we talking about?



If below 16, never mind confronting, I suggest the use of a pair of secateurs.

Mojisola

tigercubx wrote: »

My younger cousin told me today via facebook that my boyfriend had been sending her explicit messages, and that he'd exposed himself on skype to her. I decided to check his skype because I know the password and there's a chat log, but only a few words. It says that a call was started between them both for the duration of 49 minutes. Should I confront him?

Are you certain your cousin isn't making things up or twisting the truth?

I wouldn't "confront" your BF; I'd ask him what contact he's had with her and listen to his answer carefully.

skintchick

You don't have any proof either way right now. Tread carefully.

Perhaps she could show you the texts?

System

Well she could hardly be an innocent party if the conversation lasted 49 minutes!

I'd hit the end call button myself and go offline.

thegirlintheattic

If she was really concerned about it she wouldn't have spent 49 minutes on Skype with him.

Could be something going on, could be a jealous cousin. Who knows. I'd tread carefully.

tigercubx

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

How much younger are we talking about?



If below 16, never mind confronting, I suggest the use of a pair of secateurs.

She's 17, I'm 21, boyfriend is 28. It says on skype that she called him, and there's a message from her on his facebook from her saying that he's 'gorgeous' & has he got skype, and he gave her it. She's got a completely different surname so I doubt he'd know she was my cousin, I'm guessing she got to his profile by clicking on his name on the 'in a relationship with...' part of my facebook profile. The things he's apparently said to her make no sense, I'm pretty certain she's making stuff up but I'm not completely sure.

meritaten

so far you only have confirmation they have spoken on Skype.
be very careful here - your cousin could fancy him and be hoping to break up your relationship!
or could be telling the truth! the long conversation could have led up to him exposing himself.
I would for now not confront him - but, be watchful of him around this cousin. it sounds awful to say this - but I would be checking his internet history - just in case cousin isnt the only one!

Tiddlywinks

If your BF doesn't know she's your cousin then he has spent nearly an hour talking to a new girl he has 'met' on the internet... why would he do that?

If he does know she's your cousin then he would have mentioned the conversation to you wouldn't he?

podperson

tigercubx wrote: »

She's 17, I'm 21, boyfriend is 28. It says on skype that she called him, and there's a message from her on his facebook from her saying that he's 'gorgeous' & has he got skype, and he gave her it. She's got a completely different surname so I doubt he'd know she was my cousin, I'm guessing she got to his profile by clicking on his name on the 'in a relationship with...' part of my facebook profile. The things he's apparently said to her make no sense, I'm pretty certain she's making stuff up but I'm not completely sure.

So, does he not know she's your cousin? If she's just randomly messaged him on facebook and he's not only given her his skype details but has been chatting to her for 49mins on it then I would be worried about that whether he actually 'exposed' himself to her or not. It sounds very much like she fancies him so is stirring and trying to break you up - but that doesn't mean he's innocent in this.

As suggested above, I would ask him what contact he's had with her and from his answer then you might be able to get a better idea - for example, if he claims none when you know about the long skype then you know he's lying straight away and therefore probably has something to hide.

*max*

Why do you have to "confront" him? Why can you not just ask him?

FWIW, any boyfriend of mine skyping ANY girl who asked him to after she told him he was "gorgeous" on Facebook would be seeing the door sharpish. The fact she's your cousin is irrelevant really.