Boyfriend & younger cousin, don't know what do to!

cheepskate_2

i would also block your cousin on Facebooked, especially if you get another man. Your cousin isnmt exactly innocent in all of this, She knew he was your boyfriend, yet facebooked him innapropriate messages giving him the come on.

custardy

tigercubx wrote: »

Thank you well I'm pretty upset because I woke up to find some screenshots in my emails. They're screenshots from skype of a chat conversation and it shows them both on webcam (fully clothed btw!) so he must of deleted the chat history in his skype and called her more than once becuase his current history just shows a 49min call. In the chat log on the screenshot he's arranging to meet her & asking her where she wants to stay, so yeah. I live with him, no where else to go, so I might just forget this ever happened..

say what?:eek:
At the very least,you need to call him out on this

duchy

What are your cousin's motives in all this ? Why is she chasing after your boyfriend ? They sound like they deserve each other.

As for no-where else to go.........I think you should correct that situation sharpish. Someone's sofa is vastly preferable to sleeping in the same bed as a man who is chasing other women/cheating on you. Odds are if he's that uncommitted at some point he'll chuck you out with no notice to move the next one into his bed anyway .
How long have you been with him ?

martinthebandit

If I understand correctly he is 28 you are 21 and the cousin is 17?

If he is saying suggestive things to a17 year old you do know he is not a keeper whatever the outcomes of any discussion you may have with him don't you?

thegirlintheattic

Sorry OP but you have to take a stand on this.

yvonne13_2

OP to put your mind at rest and find out what's going on yourself just do the following.
If your on his Skype account this should be easy
click on your cousins name then click on the call tab at the top of the page then click on video then video settings.
Then change the radio button under automatically receive video and share screens....from no one to anyone or people on my contact list only.

You will find out the truth yourself without all the he said she said, but going of your other post I feel your cousin is leading your b/f on but that doesn't mean he has to follow.

Teeniepops

When I first started reading alarms bells rang that she could be up to badness and that maybe he fibbed about talking to her to save you pain of hearing her own cousin liked him. As in, he made effort with family, thought 'this is weird' and didn't see benefit telling you and upsetting you. I also thought there could have been an element of 'blood V boyfriend' trust fear on his part - that you'd believe her about their actions (this was guilt driven now it seems though).

NOW I think they're both up to badness. She liked him, saw a glimmer of hope and it seems brought you in for purely selfish reasons (as in, get rid of you as what's keeping them apart)

He's capable of lying and chatting to other girls.
She's capable of approaching your 'gorgeous' fella.

Please don't ignore this. Shame on him - he's with you and did this. bad enough at but with family?!?!? she is also 11 years her senior!!! That's not so bad when you're older but 17 and 28 - Eugh!!!

It sounds like she's a jealous, spiteful little girl - you're 21 and she's 17 - she could envy you and look up to you but instead of being positive about it got spiteful.

If you want up stay with him you can't ignore it and both need to work at fixing this. I would walk - but that's just me,

Be careful of him thinking you'll tolerate this - if they're talking he may find out you know the truth through her and if he thinks you'll stay schtum he has no driver to grow up and be a man.

I hope Karma has a big dose of payback for these two. I feel for you - this is not nice at all :-(

Hugs x

Sambucus_Nigra

They are both as bad as each other.

You need to look at your options and if staying with someone who would do the dirty at the first drop of a hat is at the top of that list, then you need to work on ways of increasing those options in the coming weeks and months.

Tiddlywinks

It's all about respect...

If your BF respected you then he wouldn't lie to you, nor would he be chatting up other girls behind your back.

If YOU respected yourself then you would see that you deserve better and kick him into touch.

You're young... don't throw the best years of your life away by staying with the worst type of man... a man you can't trust!

marisco_2

How long have you been dating him? Hopefully not for long and he has already shown his true colours. Be thankful you found this out early on, dump him and find someone worthy of you. It may not feel like it right now but you are best off without someone who lies to you and gets up to these things behind your back.

As for your cousin, well she is behaving like an immature 17 year old. You reap what you sow. She has gone onto your facebook and messaged your boyfriend, then tried to turn it all on him. Seems she has attracted the kind of guy she deserves and probably always will. What is wrong with her in that she cant find her own nice boyfriend and not some sleaze who is dating a relative, ewwwww!