Boyfriend & younger cousin, don't know what do to!

ruby-roo_2

Urghhhhh dump him quick smart. Come on have some respect for yourself, you deserve way better than this.

Who is he going to chat up and expose himself to next.... your mother! This takes keeping it in the family to a whole new level.

loracan1

I've missed the entire point of making a thread if you're 'just going to forget it happened'.

michelle2008

I am sorry but this all seems very juvenile - even for the 17 year old.

You all need to grow up. Your boyfriend is trawling for younger girls on the internet, your cousin is either incredibly naive or is trying to push your buttons and you are willing to ignore it all!!

You are an adult - take control.

make_me_wise

tigercubx wrote: »

so he must of deleted the chat history in his skype and called her more than once becuase his current history just shows a 49min call. In the chat log on the screenshot he's arranging to meet her & asking her where she wants to stay, so yeah. I live with him, no where else to go, so I might just forget this ever happened..

What have you not told us? I dont think we have anywhere near the whole story here. Your response to knowing your boyfriend is contacting, exposing himself to and by the looks of it shagg!ng your cousin behind your back is to just forget this is happening.

You seem almost resigned to suffering this. Okay so you live with him but that is no reason to put up with this. You could kick him out or move out yourself. Are you in an abusive relationship where accepting this kind of awful treatment is becoming normal to you? Has your self-esteem and confidence all but gone? Why is that?

You know deep, deep down you deserve better. Phone your mum, dad, siblings or a friend and ask them to help. Please do not just sit there, suffer and pretend all this is not happening. It will eat you up and bring you down even further. You are not at rock bottom yet because if you were you would not be questioning all this on a thread on an open forum.

*Louise*

tigercubx wrote: »

I live with him, no where else to go, so I might just forget this ever happened..

Really?????

Have a read through some old threads at people who have just ignored things for years - they are usually back on here after while because their partners are on dating sites / having an affair / etc. They realise they have wasted the best years of their life on some idiot who doesn't deserve them and they then end up staying even longer because they are too scared they won't find anyone else.

You ignore it - he knows he can get away with it...and your situation can ONLY get worse. And seriously, how can you live with him knowing in your heart what he has been up to....with your cousin as well. He is a creep.

martinthebandit wrote: »

If he is saying suggestive things to a17 year old you do know he is not a keeper whatever the outcomes of any discussion you may have with him don't you?

Agreed.

VestanPance

Dump the boyfriend and cut contact with the cousin. They both sound like trouble.

dacouch

Have you considered becoming a Mormon?

yvonne13_2

OP I don't know if you suffer from low self esteem or if your boyfriend has made you feel like you can't do anything without him but see this from another angle.

Your friend comes and presents the same situation which you have told us do you:
A. Advise her to get out of the relationship.
B. Advise her to blind her ears and eyes to what's going on.
or C. Advise her to stop making excuses for his behaviour and find somewhere else to live.

If you pick B then sorry there's nothing anyone can do for you.

I hope you find the strength to leave and allow someone whom wants to treat you better a chance.

podperson

Really, hun? You're going to ignore the fact that your boyfriend is picking up random, 17 year old girls online, chatting to and possibly exposing himself to them via skype and then talking about meeting up with them - I assume to take things further. This is the only one you know about but if he's capable of these things then it's doubtful she's the only one.

Is it really worth staying in a relatioship with someone who is prepared to treat you like that just because you don't want to have to look for somewhere else to live?? Where is the line - if he starts meeting up with women and sleeping with them is that ok as well? If he doesn't even bother hiding it from you anymore as he sees you're not going to do anything about it, is that ok as well?

If you can afford the house on your own then ask him to move out. If you can't then look for somewhere else - in the meantime you could stop with friends/family, look for a flat share. Getting a new place isn't exactly insummountable - people do it all the time! Are you just using it as an excuse not to have to face up to what he's doing?

Irony

Let your aunt/uncle know their girl is being groomed (that's what he is about.) Let them meet-up & you turn up with the rest of the family. Dump him before he does it to you,next on his list-there will be others-could be your child are you a mum?
Bit of luck you may get little cousins room.
Get to the lamb through the ewe.