Boyfriend & younger cousin, don't know what do to!

tigercubx

I ended up ringing my mum & telling her me & nick had had a bad argument and he helped me take all my things up to hers so I'm staying with her now. He didnt really seem upset. Yes I have a little boy but there is no way my boyfriend would groom him, the girl who he (in your words) groomed is 18 in a few months & she's just as bad as him. To everyone who asked we've been together for 7 months. Still madly in love with him but I really can't stand to be near him atm & my cousin is blocked from my facebook. No one knows what's happened yet, I know my family will be completely shocked because she's always acting really sweet & innocent, well my boyfriends told me what she's been saying to him & she's told him how many guys she has slept with and omg, not so innocent after all lol

Teeniepops

tigercubx wrote: »

I ended up ringing my mum & telling her me & nick had had a bad argument and he helped me take all my things up to hers so I'm staying with her now. He didnt really seem upset. Yes I have a little boy but there is no way my boyfriend would groom him, the girl who he (in your words) groomed is 18 in a few months & she's just as bad as him. To everyone who asked we've been together for 7 months.

Sounds like you've had a rough weekend and sorry it sounds things have ended with you in so much as a break up sucks.

However, you deserve someone who puts you and your son first and this man didn't. I hope you're ok x

tigercubx

Thank you, yeah it's been a really rubbish weekend & I feel drained!!! Xx

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

tigercubx wrote: »

I ended up ringing my mum & telling her me & nick had had a bad argument and he helped me take all my things up to hers so I'm staying with her now. He didnt really seem upset. Yes I have a little boy but there is no way my boyfriend would groom him, the girl who he (in your words) groomed is 18 in a few months & she's just as bad as him. To everyone who asked we've been together for 7 months. Still madly in love with him but I really can't stand to be near him atm & my cousin is blocked from my facebook. No one knows what's happened yet, I know my family will be completely shocked because she's always acting really sweet & innocent, well my boyfriends told me what she's been saying to him & she's told him how many guys she has slept with and omg, not so innocent after all lol

Yeh, like it's all her fault and he was completely helpless against the mature worldly charms of someone not old enough to vote yet.


He sounds wonderful.

bouncydog1

He's a user, she's a not very nice person, and they deserve each other!

You're the adult here with responsibility for your son. Life is not about short changing yourself and accepting leftovers - life is about making it the best you can for you and your son and you can do this.


Believe in yourself and you can do it - at 21 you have years to improve things.

*Louise*

So glad you didn't choose to ignore the situation. It seems hard now but in the long run it will be the best move you have made x

Amanda65

tigercubx wrote: »

I ended up ringing my mum & telling her me & nick had had a bad argument and he helped me take all my things up to hers so I'm staying with her now. He didnt really seem upset. Yes I have a little boy but there is no way my boyfriend would groom him, the girl who he (in your words) groomed is 18 in a few months & she's just as bad as him. To everyone who asked we've been together for 7 months. Still madly in love with him but I really can't stand to be near him atm & my cousin is blocked from my facebook. No one knows what's happened yet, I know my family will be completely shocked because she's always acting really sweet & innocent, well my boyfriends told me what she's been saying to him & she's told him how many guys she has slept with and omg, not so innocent after all lol

I assume you boyfriend is not your little boys father, which means you can make a clean break from this relationship. Tell your Mum and then she can help you to decide how to approach your cousin / family. How do you know that what he is saying about her is true and not just badmouthing to try and wriggle out of the conversation.
Maybe it started as a flirtation on her part (definitely not condoning it btw) but maybe she IS as innocent as she comes across and his behaviour has shocked her. She came straight to you without taking it further and your boyfriend lied by denying any contact and has deleted his Skype history - hardly the actions of an innocent man.

You are only 21, you have a little boy to care for and look after, do you want him to grow up in an environment with a man who does not respect his mum and lies and cheats on her? Believe me, once he has done it once and you have forgiven him, he will do it again and again - because you allow it. Take care and good luck

Sambucus_Nigra

I'm glad for you that you are out of this relationship now.

Take some time and gather your thoughts. Well done.

Irony

She may well be a nasty little vamp that's slept around. A sign of abuse its self (in some cases)
A few months ago she was under age.

DS4215

She might be 18 in a few months, but legally he has been sending pornographic images to a minor. That sort of behavior usually ends up with his name on the sex offenders register and a nice break at the local prison....