Too late to back out? (Meeting a guy from Facebook)

paulineb_2

I think if the OP really did want to meet this bloke, she wouldnt have posted this thread.

If you need advice on a situation, something is ringing, alarm bells maybe.

Im sure you know hes no good and hes full of the proverbial brown stuff and that its all going to end in tears.

Believe me, Ive been in points in my life where Ive been really low and desperately lonely, but Id never look to someone already attached and with a family to fill some kind of need.

And for goodness sake, someone who works with kids as a therapist, what the hell do they know about depression in a professional sense?
If you need counselling and support, go and see someone qualified, because if this man were a proper counsellor which he obviously isnt he would know the golden rule is, you have clear personal and professional boundaries.

I'll say it again, your safety is also at risk, you know nothing about this man.

Lunar_Eclipse

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I'm not sure - my son's holidays are longer than mine were at a private primary school.

They do vary, but I'm fairly sure private schools have always had more holidays.

And how do you remember?

neverdespairgirl

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

They do vary, but I'm fairly sure private schools have always had more holidays.

And how do you remember?

I have a fantastic memory for useless bits of information, such as the length of my primary school holidays, and I also remember things such as all my debit card / credit card / passport numbers in full.

Sadly, this memory trick doesn't extend to useful things such as where I put my keys / phone / wallet

Tygermoth

It depends on the school - my private school we did late schooling till 6 (after dinner) a half day sat and two hours 'prep' on a Sunday.

Most of the attendees were far flung international students so short holidays would be eaten up with jet lag and travel time.

I seemed to spend months off over the summer and Christmas.

Hanging_by_a_thread

how sad that the OP doesn't appear to have taken any of the good advice given on this thread on board. I predict alot of upset and destruction.

sweetpea26

I have one piece of advice for you young lady.

GROW UP.

Get off facebook and every other 'life sharing' site. (s*ite would be the correct term)

You are only 21 years old and have a child. You are responsible for the outcome of your life. Stop thinking a man can magically make your life complete. You have a man in your life a little man. Put him as your priority and you will have plenty to do.

You are a very vulnerable person but you must stop putting yourself up as a VICTIM. The world does not need to know your business and talking to strangers on the internet is not a healthy way of living.

Get yourself away from the laptop and go for a walk, swim or find an interest that introduces you to real people not pond life.

I repeat. GROW up look after your child, stop worrying your mother with your childishness and lack of reality. She must be worried sick with you moving from one man to another.

Finally with the deepest of respect ..... RESPECT yourself .... you are worth more than these men you keep throwing yourself at.

Seek help from your GP and God bless you.

sjc3

Young love.

OP this guy will come to the UK, shag you, go home and forget about you. If you are ok with that then go for it.

No major harm can come of it. It is not like you are going to bump into his wife or that she will find out.

Goldiegirl

So, earlier in the year, there was a boyfriend called Nick exposing himself over the Internet to a cousin.

And now there is another Nick grooming the OP from the other side of the world via the Internet.

I think there probably is a real Nick, living his life perfectly innocently, but the OP has a massive crush on him, and is weaving elaborate fantasies around him, and posting the fantasies on here.

I've got to hand it to you, tiger, you are very plausible, so well done. There's nothing wrong with fantasies, but are best kept to yourself and you can even dream up something where Nick acts like a nice person.

Or even better, step away from your fantasies, Facebook, Skype, the Internet and your computer, and start living in the real world, and eventually meet someone real who you can have a proper relationship with.

Amanda65

Gosh don't some people lead complicated lives :eek:

OP I offered some advice on your thread in January about your boyfriend, UK Nick, having sex Skype's with your younger cousin. It would now appear that you have become the 'younger' woman in the same situation with NZ Nick - what a coincidence

I will give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you life really is a as mixed up as you lead us to believe and will suggest that at 21, having just come out of a relationship with a cheat you concentrate on your little boy (who was not from your relationship with UK Nick if my memory serves me correctly), speak to your psychiatrist here about your trust and attachment issues, delete NZ Nick from all methods of electronic and social media and go out on the day he is due to vist.

Oh - and avoid people called Nick in future !!!!!

anderson8

I think reading through if its not a wind up then the op has already made up her mind to meet this guy.
Op you will only have yourself to blame when it all goes tits up, leaving you probably in an even more depressed state than when it started