Oh well I saved money on not having to buy a new outfit or a present!

barbarawright

Saturnalia wrote: »

Bit different but the other day I read something on FB by my sister saying that one of her closest friends is going to be godmother to her baby.

I'm her elder son's godmother and I'd been assuming that siblings have the same godparents so I would be to the younger boy too. But I'd assumed wrong, my mistake!

And TBH I was so thrilled to be asked to be eldest's godmother because I'm already his aunt & I'd thought godparents were usually friends of the family rather than actually related.

So yes, I'm not upset or offended in the slightest. Just surprised!

I've never heard of siblings having the same godparents. Certainly we all had different ones in my family. Is it common then?

mountainofdebt

barbarawright wrote: »

I've never heard of siblings having the same godparents. Certainly we all had different ones in my family. Is it common then?

I know aunts and uncles were godparents to my sister and I but not as couples if that makes sense!

barbarawright

mountainofdebt wrote: »

I know aunts and uncles were godparents to my sister and I but not as couples if that makes sense!

Yes, that's how it worked in our family. Nobody was a godparent twice over though

balletshoes

barbarawright wrote: »

Yes, that's how it worked in our family. Nobody was a godparent twice over though

same here. Both my sisters have 2 children each. I am godmum to 2 of the children, one from each sister! I share godparent responsibility with my brother for one of those children too.

duchy

view wrote: »

Why can't you just say 'I overheard on the radio the lovely dedication to you guys for your wedding day. Congrats! lovely news!' if they all know you aren't the type of person who would be worried about not being invited then there will be not a trace of anything untoward in your voice or expression and that'll be that, done and dusted, job done. Simples :huh:

This .......

Anything else is drama lama

jackomdj

I agree with saying you heard it on the radio.

My mum will sometimes tell me things she has been told by someone, but add "I have not officially been told" then pretend she did not know as it had come from a second hand source! It drives me mad!

Newly_retired

What have I missed out on?
Knowing whether presents to family members have arrived safely in the post, or been collected from the other family member I left them with.
Let alone being thanked for them!
Just checked my bank balance, so I now know that a certain cheque has been paid in.
So much for communication between family members!

coinxoperated

Me and my partner are hoping to get married in the very near future and intend for no more than around 25-30 people. They'll be a lot of people from my large family who won't be invited and won't be informed about the wedding and the same applies to his family. We aren't religious as such, and don't intend on having a 'normal' wedding, and I refuse to pay for 150 people to sit and eat over priced food / pay for a larger venue just so it doesn't upset 'someone'. No doubt some people will be up in arms about it, I don't really care.

I would keep shtum. Then when you visit look out for the wedding ring and mention it then! Say you don't mind that you weren't invited or anything like that, but would have liked the opportunity to wish them well. Then leave it there.

Threebabes

We have had years of this of the inlaws.

They are sly and secretive. Last year we sat with them a week before they were off to visit their daughter and kids who are overseas, no mention of the cruise they were taking them all on with the 4 kids. They blatently didn't mention it. Only when SIL posted photos on FB who is on my dd's friend list did we see them. Could write a book on these kind of tricks theyve pulled.

I think it looks worse when it comes out after its been hushed up. Let them get on with it

burnoutbabe

you could always congratulate them on their upcoming baby next time you see them, when they say eh? say "well i heard you had a quick quiet wedding, so i assumed ......."

least embarrass them!