Oh well I saved money on not having to buy a new outfit or a present!

pigpen

Most people seem to plaster a daily countdown on their FB pages lol

I've been left out of birthday meals.. not quite the same as a wedding, but it has been my mothers birthday and my sisters and they all went out and no one even thought to mention it to me.. I was actually quite put out.. I probably couldn't have gone at short notice but it is nice to be asked! Plus I am safe to invite because I don't usually go.

As a more distant relative I don't think I'd care, the chances are I wouldn't go had I been invited but it does seem a bit odd not to mention it at all.. if she knows you that well surely she would know it wouldn't be an issue.

My friend got married but couldn't afford a big wedding do so I went to the church ceremony (You can attend any wedding or baptism without being invited!) and went home after and went to the evening do I was invited to.

LEJC

ab.da54 wrote: »

What's the point in these type of "games"?

What would it achieve other than to put an innocent party into an awkward position?

im sorry ...you clearly didnt detect that my comments to which you have kindly replied were said with a hint of jest and humour added....even though I had included the words "funny" humour in my response

I guess I must consider that that joke bombed....and I will not be playing any game with my cousin

But just out of interest who do you see as the innocent party in this?...Im not sure you can quantify either an innocent or guilty party in situation,when I wrote my original post I certainly have not suggested that...

LEJC

Thanks Mrs D for your lovely post...Ive been thinking it over this afternoon and spoke to my husband about it...and I think I've come to the reasonig that perhaps everyone has just assumed I knew about the wedding...a case of everyone probably thought that it was someone elses news to tell,and in the end I heard it on the radio.

LEJC

Sorry my last post got split
Jax I understand what you say and Ive no idea if the wedding was a big or small affair..to me thats the bride and grooms decision...as in your case too...but surely if you are having a small wedding and only inviting a few members of family, you are at least happy to tell the rest of your family the news too,or at least allow someone else in the family to let people know.?

I had though that I have a very good relationship with this person and its not as if they are distantly related either...more than a lot of people I know the expense of a wedding and can only reiterate again that I would not have been at all offended at not receiving an invite...but maybe its out of curtiousy that you tell someone its happening....that costs nothing...probably even prior to your wedding especially if you post a "im getting married tomorrow" type comment as many of you lovely brides do I'll pop up on the weddings board and wish you luck,it doesnt have a hidden adgenda just a simple good wish for the future.And by the same turn I would have instictively thought of popping a card and voucher in the post for my bride to open and wishing her luck...thats my way.

i really am not bothered and there isnt an issue...I did find it strange to hear so many of my family referrered to on the radio this morning especially when I wasnt expecting it...and suddenly thought..."well there you go..."it was a little bit like "oh...." but then as I said it saved me buying a new outfit and a gift

There is going to come a point when I'm sure someone will say"oh we missed you at X and Y's wedding"...but its not an issue,it just got me thinking that it is probably one of the only times I feel that ive ever felt forgotten and wondered if a similar "forgetfulness" had happened to others

mustmakealist

Did you consider that the fact that it wasn't mentioned at an event 4 weeks ago wasn't not to let you know about it but that there might have been others there who would not have taken it as well as you? I'm sure that there was no intent to keep it a secret, but as others posted, just not to keep going on about it. If they thought that you knew about it they might have been upset that you were ignoring it.

I hope that you found something nice to do today and perhaps will send them a card anyway wishing them the best. I'm sure that they would appreciate it even if it didn't arrive on the day.

MrsDrink

LEJC wrote: »

It just got me thinking that it is probably one of the only times I feel that ive ever felt forgotten and wondered if a similar "forgetfulness" had happened to others

Actually remembered feeling left out when I was having a shower. (TMI?)

I left my old work in January, after a lot of redundancies in the summer. The majority of my old colleagues live in the same area - I live about 15 miles away; this has never been a problem and I've always driven to any lunches. Anyway I found out they were planning to meet up last week. They didn't in the end, but I did feel a bit left out that no-one had asked me. I'd have understood if it was only the colleagues left in the job, but it was all the old gang (from my understanding). BUT the fact that it's taken me all day to remember this incident shows I couldn't have been too bothered.

londonsurrey

LEJC wrote: »

in fact I think when we said goodbye it was the usual..."take care we'll catch up again soon"

Wow. That's quite a bit of news they'll have for the catch up session then!

LEJC

mustmakealist wrote: »

I hope that you found something nice to do today and perhaps will send them a card anyway wishing them the best. I'm sure that they would appreciate it even if it didn't arrive on the day.

I did wonder about a card but as I said in an earlier post...the only way I heard about it was by chance on the radio...and I dont want to put them in the possible embarassment of suddenly realising that I didnt know about the wedding...or worse still that I have genuinely done something to offend them (im not aware i have by the way) and having to accept a token from me that would rather not.

its the brides birthday in the summer I think I shall do as normal and send a card...using her previous name and maybe when she calls to say thanks we can catch up on "how things are".

LEJC

ab.da54 wrote: »

I do wonder if you are more bothered than you like to portray though.

I think Ive covered the answer to your question in multiple other replies.

LEJC

MrsDrink wrote: »

(TMI?)

Probably...but said very much tongue in cheek incase I offend anyone...lol