Oh well I saved money on not having to buy a new outfit or a present!

LEJC

suejb2 wrote: »

Did you want the scene where it's mentioned that they are getting married..........long embarrassing silence.....you're not invited.

I'd like to think that my family know me well enough to know that it wouldn't worry me in the slightest that I wasn't invied to the wedding....as I said in an earlier reply I would have wished them evert future happiness and probably sent a card and voucher to open on the day.

Its not about not being invited...I think its more about not being told...its not as if we dont keep in contact and as I said meet at other family functions,exchange cards etc...it really does feel as if its a case of someones forgotten to tell me.

LEJC

pollypenny wrote: »

Just wish them all the best when you see them.

I certainly will wish them well...but I cant do that unless they actually initiate the conversation to say..."by the way we got married....."

The fact that I by chance heard a dedication on local radio station hardly can be seen as being told...

midnightraven3

if you sent a present and card now it could be seen as passive aggressive
say nothing and one day you will be in their company and it will come out they are married, cue awkward silences

its a strange thing for someone to do

i've never met a bride to be yet who wont bore you at every given opportunity to give you a blow by blow account of what their day will entail:o

LEJC

Absolutely!!!!!!!!!

LEJC

Skintski wrote: »

:money:

I'm getting married in November but I wouldn't run round mentioning it um people I wasn't inviting, I'd see that as rubbing their nose in it.

I expect that you might end up telling people as you go along with your preparations that your getting married....every bride tells at least one person that at some point before the day....I certainly did...and I didnt feel i was rubbing their nose in it...and neither will you...its more sharing your excitement!!!!

best of luck with your wedding prep...and have a wonderful day....

ab.da54

LEJC wrote: »

No ...apparently my cousin is Flying in from France for the wedding...another poster suggested that perhaps I should try and arrange a meeting with some of the family who are attending...as I'm not supposed to know they are all in the UK...my sense of humour wonders if I should drop my cousin an email to say that we will be visiting him in France and see what the reaction is based on the fact that I now know hes visiting the UK for the wedding!

What's the point in these type of "games"?

What would it achieve other than to put an innocent party into an awkward position?

Skintski

LEJC wrote: »

I expect that you might end up telling people as you go along with your preparations that your getting married....every bride tells at least one person that at some point before the day....I certainly did...and I didnt feel i was rubbing their nose in it...and neither will you...its more sharing your excitement!!!!

best of luck with your wedding prep...and have a wonderful day....

Thank you very much, I suspect I must be a bit of a weirdo on the bride front since I don't tend to mention it that often but I think that may stem from having watched a friend of ours wind everyone up with "did I mention I'm getting married, look at me, look at me" for months on end so that may have something to do with it.

MrsDrink

LEJC wrote: »

Anyone else ever felt that they have been forgotten to be told something?

Have been mulling this over since you started this thread LEJC... and I honestly can't remember if I have. So either I did feel I was left out but have forgotten in which case I was daft to be so upset, or I genuinely haven't.

I've also tried wracking my brains over when I haven't told someone something. I don't think I've ever deliberately not told anyone something as big as getting married. I guess I don't tell my mum *everything* - like when MrD's parents have offered to take us somewhere incase my mum feels put out that she hasn't/can't do the same. But I don't go out of my way to hide things from her, just omit some of the finer details.

MrD didn't initially tell *any* of his work colleagues we were getting married, one found out because the photographer mentioned it in passing. MrD's theory was it just wasn't any of their business. Where as I did tell my work colleagues because well quite frankly I was over the moon lol. (As you know it had taken some doing getting him to say yes lol). Then the whole 'constant wedding conversation' began because they would be genuinely interested and ask me questions about how it was all going with the planning. And these were work colleagues who were not invited to the celebrations. I'm sure my mum and MrD's mum both kept their sides of our family updated with the wedding details. In fact I know they did.

Kynthia

Is it possible they thought you already knew and weren't actually keeping it from you. Then four weeks ago they were just being tactful by not talking about the day when you weren't invited or were just enjoying an evening off from the wedding planning and conversations? I know that many people are sick of discussing their wedding in the last few weeks because it becomes all consuming and all anyone wants to talk about.

74jax

I'm getting married in 8 weeks, and to be honest only speak about it to those who we have invited, and that's not many.

It's not a deliberate 'don't mention the wedding' but I just don't see it as a topic of conversation. I would say 'ooooo did you know we're getting married in 8 weeks'.

Maybe they didn't deliberately not say anything just didn't' think it relevant?