What would you do?

peachyprice

I'm sorry, but I just don't agree with walking into a complete strangers life, dropping a bombshell and waltzing out again.

It's an entirely different story if it's a friend or famlily member, someone you care about, someone you want to protect, but OP doesn't know these people, she doesn't care about the husband, it's a purely selfish act and is wrong IMO.

marisco_2

peachyprice wrote: »

I just don't agree with walking into a complete strangers life, dropping a bombshell and waltzing out again.

People who cheat would agree with you there.

They are happy to walk into someones life and fool them into a false sense of security.

They then have an affair which is the equivalent of a ticking time bomb. As far as they will be concerned, god forbid that it goes off and drops a bombshell on their poor unsespecting partner.

If it does they are then forced to waltz back out again, away from the one person who no doubt offered them financial and emotional security, whilst being treated like a total mug.

Most cheaters dont want that to happen at all. They are more than happy to keep up the lies and pretence and play away behind their partners back. Nice! :cool:

peachyprice

Oh, I'm sure Karma will get the lying, cheating barstewards in the end Marisco

marisco_2

Even if karma does catch up with the cheaters of this world, that is still getting off very light, compared to what the person who has been cheated on is left to cope with.

When you discover that the person you loved has cheated on you it leaves you questioning everything about yourself. You wonder what you did wrong, why could your partner not talk to you, why did they hold you in such little regard that they could not be bothered to work on issues within your relationship with you? It is a crippling state of mind to be left in.

Then there are the long term effects of feeling unable to ever place enough trust in another person to form new relationships. The cold actions of someone having an affair can cause such long term, devestating damage to someone. Something most cheaters fail to acknowledge. This is why it is so essential to tell someone early if their partner is unfaithful. The longer the lies go on for the worse it becomes. Why would anyone sit back and allow all of this to happen to a person if it could be avoided?

LittleMax

marisco wrote: »

People who cheat would agree with you there.

They are happy to walk into someones life and fool them into a false sense of security.

They then have an affair which is the equivalent of a ticking time bomb. As far as they will be concerned, god forbid that it goes off and drops a bombshell on their poor unsespecting partner.

If it does they are then forced to waltz back out again, away from the one person who no doubt offered them financial and emotional security, whilst being treated like a total mug.

Most cheaters dont want that to happen at all. They are more than happy to keep up the lies and pretence and play away behind their partners back. Nice! :cool:

You make it sound like people who cheat on their partners set out looking for someone who they have an affair with and then they plot to keep it secret purely to hurt their respective partners. Well I hate to burst your black and white bubble but it doesn't work as simply as that. Hurting their partners is usually the last thing they would want to do. Things happen and situations get out of control, people are torn and don't know what to do. Sometimes they just need time to sort things out and do the right thing themselves ... and their 'right thing' might not be your 'right thing'. We do not have this right to meddle in people's live's just because you think they need to make decisions armed with the full facts.

marisco_2

LittleMax wrote: »

Hurting their partners is usually the last thing they would want to do.

I dont live in a black and white bubble. Nor do I go round with my eyes wide shut unlike some. If the last thing someone wanted to do was to hurt their partner, they would not even contemplate having an affair. It is the ultimate betrayal. This is why it is an automatic ground for divorce.

As you were......

Person_one

Wow, I can't quite believe anybody at all voted for 'keep quiet', 40% is shocking!

People who are being deceived and lied to deserve to be told the truth.

It really is that simple.

LittleMax

Person_one wrote: »

Wow, I can't quite believe anybody at all voted for 'keep quiet', 40% is shocking!

People who are being deceived and lied to deserve to be told the truth.

It really is that simple.

Obviously not

Person_one

LittleMax wrote: »

Obviously not

Just because not everybody realises it, doesn't mean its not true.

peachyprice

Person_one wrote: »

People who are being deceived and lied to deserve to be told the truth.

It really is that simple.

Obviously it isn't to 40% of respondents. If it were really that simple surely the percentage would be much lower?