Punishments for nasty bullying behaviour from a 14 y/o?

bigmaz

Joons wrote: »

I was meaning predomanently mentally! A young adult would indicate to me that they had adults right which of course, they do not.

Well why were you meaning mentally, when we were clearly talking about the physical strength of a 14 year old? I am confused :huh:

pigpen

Tenyearstogo wrote: »

Pigpen, how would your daughter like to see your son punished?

She doesn't because she loves him. She just wants him to say sorry.. I left the room to blubber for 5 minutes.

We have decided he is not allowed his laptop back until after the weekend. He has some extra chores to do, he actually has a cupboard to clean out (he responds really well to physical tasks as consequences) He has been shown how serious an injury could have been caused and I think it went in. DD has told him how upset she was and frightened and then sad because she won't get her 100% attendance certificate this term and that she missed her trip.

He has cried and said sorry and shown a level of remorse which is more than we usually get, so maybe he is growing up a bit!

He has been told in no uncertain terms I will ring a policeman and he will have to face the same consequences as he would if he hurt someone in the street, like the boys that hit him a few months ago. I'm not sure that will remain lodged in his head but it will be reinforced over the weekend.

Now I have to deal with his t0ssp0t father who is refusing to have anything to do with him and told him he won't have him at his house. GGGgggrrrrrr.

Joons

ghost_town wrote: »

First day at secondary school so age 11 we were referred to as young adults, it's rather patronising to call a teenager a child. And in this case it's trying to lessen the severity of a teenage boy who could be 6ft tall and well built for all we know being violent towards his sister who is a child with health issues.

It doesn't matter if you have mental or neurological problems that doesn't excuse violence.

Referring to 11 year olds as young adults, I've heard it all now!

Joons

ghost_town wrote: »

I would have looked at you like you were stupid if you called me a child at 15. Sorry

But if I called you a child at 14, that wouldn't be stupid?

bigmaz

ghost_town wrote: »

In discussion time people are trying to justify parents being violent towards children as a form of discipline.

Violence is always wrong as the intent is to cause physical harm and instill fear. People's attitudes have changed from men being "allowed" to rape and beat their wives and teachers being allowed to belt their students but on mse it's okay for parents to smack their kids and for a teenage boy to punch his sister in the stomach.

I agree with smacking, not beating, but smacking. My sister went with the whole "reasoning" thing with her kids, and they turned out as brats :P I went for the small smack, and have only ever had to do it a few times, and I can actually control my kids.

Dunroamin

pigpen wrote: »

She doesn't because she loves him. She just wants him to say sorry.. I left the room to blubber for 5 minutes.

We have decided he is not allowed his laptop back until after the weekend. He has some extra chores to do, he actually has a cupboard to clean out (he responds really well to physical tasks as consequences) He has been shown how serious an injury could have been caused and I think it went in. DD has told him how upset she was and frightened and then sad because she won't get her 100% attendance certificate this term and that she missed her trip.

He has cried and said sorry and shown a level of remorse which is more than we usually get, so maybe he is growing up a bit!

He has been told in no uncertain terms I will ring a policeman and he will have to face the same consequences as he would if he hurt someone in the street, like the boys that hit him a few months ago. I'm not sure that will remain lodged in his head but it will be reinforced over the weekend.

Now I have to deal with his t0ssp0t father who is refusing to have anything to do with him and told him he won't have him at his house. GGGgggrrrrrr.

Because of his violent behaviour or more generally?

Joons

bigmaz wrote: »

Well why were you meaning mentally, when we were clearly talking about the physical strength of a 14 year old? I am confused :huh:

Have a lie down.

bigmaz

Joons wrote: »

Have a lie down.

I think you need to.... You went on a total tangent to what I was saying, are you a politician? lol

Joons

pigpen wrote: »

She doesn't because she loves him. She just wants him to say sorry.. I left the room to blubber for 5 minutes.

We have decided he is not allowed his laptop back until after the weekend. He has some extra chores to do, he actually has a cupboard to clean out (he responds really well to physical tasks as consequences) He has been shown how serious an injury could have been caused and I think it went in. DD has told him how upset she was and frightened and then sad because she won't get her 100% attendance certificate this term and that she missed her trip.

He has cried and said sorry and shown a level of remorse which is more than we usually get, so maybe he is growing up a bit!

He has been told in no uncertain terms I will ring a policeman and he will have to face the same consequences as he would if he hurt someone in the street, like the boys that hit him a few months ago. I'm not sure that will remain lodged in his head but it will be reinforced over the weekend.

Now I have to deal with his t0ssp0t father who is refusing to have anything to do with him and told him he won't have him at his house. GGGgggrrrrrr.

Well done, you've dealt with it the best way possible.

Your ex sounds a nightmare!

Joons

bigmaz wrote: »

I think you need to.... You went on a total tangent to what I was saying, are you a politician? lol

I'm already flat out on the floor!

Do you think I'd make a good one?