Punishments for nasty bullying behaviour from a 14 y/o?

pigpen

I think whether a 14 y/o is considered a young adult or a child very much depends on the individual. DD2 is quite definitely a young woman at 14/15 but DS3 is very much a large child.

Emotionally they are poles apart, developmentally they are poles apart. DD2 can be trusted to look after her own needs, eating, bathing, getting to school etc, DS3 cannot, I tell him to eat, help him get food, tell him to bathe, kick him out the door to school etc.

I think there needs to be a level of independence required to be considered any kind of adult. I have met grown people who are still very much a large child!

bigmaz

Person_one wrote: »

Its a funny age, not a child, not an adult. Something like ASD only complicates that and makes it even more important to make sure they know the right way to behave and how to treat others.

Thats why I hold my hat off to people like pigpen and delain, raising kids is hard enough, never mind having to deal with that well done guys :T

bigmaz

Joons wrote: »

Not in my opinion, a young adult to me would be at least 16 years old. A 14 year old is very much a child in my eyes, even more so if they have learning difficulties.

Maybe mentally, but I was meaning physically they are becoming a young adult, so the force of the punch wouldnt be a small chaild punch

Tenyearstogo

Pigpen, how would your daughter like to see your son punished?

Dunroamin

Kayalana99 wrote: »

He's a 14 year old kid not a criminal!!

Would you think differently if an unknown 14 year old youth "man punched" your disabled 10 year old daughter in the stomach? Would you still say "he's just a kid!"?

Dunroamin

j.e.j. wrote: »

If the Police were called every time someone's brother punched their sister they'd have an awful lot of phone-calls to deal with :rotfl:

People used to say the same thing about men who hit their wives.

Joons

bigmaz wrote: »

You just want an argument eh? lol. I am in total support for Pigpen....... If you read the posts, Joons was trying to say its normal for brothers to hit their little sis's like this.....

OMG, where have I said it's normal for brothers to hit their little sisters, not one of my four brothers laid a finger on either myself or my sister, you should read better before replying! I said myself and my sister fought a lot but that we were both normal at the time and still are! Whose desperate now...:eek:

Joons

bigmaz wrote: »

Maybe mentally, but I was meaning physically they are becoming a young adult, so the force of the punch wouldnt be a small chaild punch

I was meaning predomanently mentally! A young adult would indicate to me that they had adults right which of course, they do not.

Dunroamin

Joons wrote: »

I honestly wonder about the knowledge of some folk posting on here, have they been to a city comprehensive lately or spent time on a school bus, kids can be nasty and do fight.

Perhaps they do this because too many adults say that they're just being kids?

bigmaz

Joons wrote: »

OMG, where have I said it's normal for brothers to hit their little sisters, not one of my four brothers laid a finger on either myself or my sister, you should read better before replying! I said myself and my sister fought a lot but that we were both normal at the time and still are! Whose desperate now...:eek:

Sorry if I picked you up wrong, but you were laughing it off as normal when you said:

Joons wrote: »

My god, I would have been in jail most of my pubescent years lol.

I just dont see that as normal 14 yo bro and 10 yo sis fighting, thats all.