Punishments for nasty bullying behaviour from a 14 y/o?

Treevo

Joons wrote: »

So now you're also judging the OP on her parenting skills.

I hope she has enough intelligence to completely ignore you.

I'm not judging her parenting skills. I'm questioning how she's dealing with an assault that happened in her home - which is the point of the thread.

I'm wondering how you would all react if it was your child being assaulted in this way by someone else's 14 year old. Would it suddenly become unacceptable? Would the police be involved? What's stopping this boy from assaulting one of his sister's friends? Do you think it'll be taken well when the police discover that the boy has a history of assaulting smaller children and the parents did nothing?

j.e.j.

If the Police were called every time someone's brother punched their sister they'd have an awful lot of phone-calls to deal with :rotfl:

Joons

j.e.j. wrote: »

If the Police were called every time someone's brother punched their sister they'd have an awful lot of phone-calls to deal with :rotfl:

My god, I would have been in jail most of my pubescent years lol.

bigmaz

Treevo wrote: »

He assaulted a ten year old. A 14 year can still be guilty of assault.

The girl was in pain for hours! Don't minimise this.

I agree with this. Kids these days dont get consequences, hence the reason they can basically do anything they want, and then all of a sudden they are an adult and uncontrollable and look where that has got us, why not nip it in the bud when they are growing up.

pigpen

Treevo wrote: »

I wouldn't be in your situation, full stop.

You're focusing a hell of a lot on your son and not at all on your daughter who spent the entire day in pain after being assaulted. She is more important in this situation. You shudder to think about what would happen to the 'poor boy' if he was mine - I shudder to think what is actually happening to the real victim of this assault. Because she's obviously not being protected by her parents.

I didn't realise you could choose to have a normal or a child with additional needs... why is that not on mumsnet???!!

None of my children are MORE important than another.. they are EQUALLY important which is why I am trying to do the best by both of them. Caring for a child who is hurt is easy, caring for a child with ASD's and finding a way forward in difficult situations isn't easy.

If you've not lived it, count your blessings because it is bloody hard work some days!!

Kayalana99

Treevo wrote: »

He assaulted a ten year old. A 14 year can still be guilty of assault.

The girl was in pain for hours! Don't minimise this.

I know I am probally going to get flamed for this but if he had punched PP's 10 year old son instead of a DD this would be an entirely differnt thread. :cool:

gingin_2

j.e.j. wrote: »

If the Police were called every time someone's brother punched their sister they'd have an awful lot of phone-calls to deal with :rotfl:

Is it really funny? We're talking an assault here by a soon to be adult who can't control his temper on someone much smaller. I know that our PCSO's are very involved in the community and would be happy to help out if they know they could prevent a further and potentially more aggravated assault.

bigmaz

j.e.j. wrote: »

If the Police were called every time someone's brother punched their sister they'd have an awful lot of phone-calls to deal with :rotfl:

Joons wrote: »

My god, I would have been in jail most of my pubescent years lol.

Are you kidding? I would never have hit my sister in the stomach at full force, maybe trip her up and wind her up etc, but never a man punch to the stomach.......

Kayalana99

gingin wrote: »

Is it really funny? We're talking an assault here by a soon to be adult who can't control his temper on someone much smaller. I know that our PCSO's are very involved in the community and would be happy to help out if they know they could prevent a further and potentially more aggravated issue.

It's funny because its true. :T

pigpen

bigmaz wrote: »

I agree with this. Kids these days dont get consequences, hence the reason they can basically do anything they want, and then all of a sudden they are an adult and uncontrollable and look where that has got us, why not nip it in the bud when they are growing up.

If you read the first post you would see that is what my initial question was.. new ways to deal with this serious behaviour because the normal methods don't work with some children and most normal forms of punishment aren't appropriate.