FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

Funky_Bold_Ribena

Good on you. Step 1 - tick that box.

You are bound to feel numb - you've taken a big step. Early night, hot bath, bubbles, wash hair, and wake up to a new life. x

Hezzawithkids

OMG well done you, you had the courage of your convictions, he now knows exactly what you're made of and that you are stronger than he could ever have imagined, I wouldn't like to be in his shoes when he turns up at his mum's tonight

tayforth

Person_one wrote: »

Well done, you did brilliantly.

spirit wrote: »

Well done and hugs.

It's natural to feel numb, no one goes into a marriage thinking they might have to end it within a year or so. I expect that the adrenalin has been flowing today too and now you can 'stand down' it is a bit of an anti climax.

It's early days yet, you have done brilliantly today, just take each day at a time now.

pinkladyof66 wrote: »

really hope you feel better soon op at least the worst is over you can now relax and try to move on with your life, it will be hard but you will get there and in no time at all you will look back with admiration of yourself as to how strong you were and you can then look forward to all the nice things in life again. So proud of you OP !!! Well done !!!

Thank you.

spirit, you may be right, it could just be the comedown from all the adrenaline.

pinkladyof66, I hope that I will look back and be proud of how strong I was. I don't know how I would have got through the last 2 weeks without you lot though, honestly xxx

nerak_y

Ah I signed in after work to see how you were, big hugs and well done for making the break.

You will feel numb, I think that is normal. Then as time goes on you will start finding the simplest things amazing and enjoyable, bathing alone without getting a hard time for doing so was my biggy!

When your hand reaches for your front door in the coming weeks, it will be without dread as to what may be waiting for you.

Good for you girly!!! xx

tayforth

mcja wrote: »

:beer:

Tayforth,you are the kind of woman my i would love my daughter to have as a role model.

You have been through so much, and by asking for help you have been able to make a monumental life changing decision. It has been a genuine privilege to read your story. I wish you a very happy, peaceful future filled with lots of gentle times and lots and lots of laughter.

Xx

Thank you so much mcja. Asking for help doesn't come easily to me, but it's the best thing I ever did. I'm incredibly touched by your role model comment, it's brought a tear to my eye xxx

bagpussbear wrote: »

Very well done Tayforth, hugs to you. The worst is over now. Welcome to the first day of the rest of your life xx

That has a nice ring to it

nmlc wrote: »

Evening

Well done, you handled it brilliantly without crumbling and stuck to your guns. He may well keep trying to get you back on side over the next few days, so don't be fooled by his behaviour. You've done the hardest bit. Don't want to scare you but would it be worth putting a wedge under your door tonight from the inside just in case he decides he wants to get back in?

Keep safe and well x

nmlc x

I'll double lock it and keep the key in the lock, turned sideways. He won't be able to unlock it from the outside. But thanks for the suggestion. And I'll be strong and not be taken in by him, I promise xx

gerturdeanna

Just read this from beginning to end! You are bound to feel numb - have a drink (alcoholic or otherwise), have a soak in the bath, don't answer any calls from him and chill out thinking of the rest of your life!

Take care

tayforth

harrys_nan wrote: »

Big (((hugs))) for you.
You have done the hard part and your going to feel strange for a few days, I'm sure you will go through lots of different emotions.
Keep strong and look forwards now to your future which will be full of happiness and peace
Sleep well tonight xx

Thanks, I'm sure I will go through everything and I'll try to be prepared and take each day as it comes xx

Alpha58 wrote: »

Others have said it already, but today is the first day of the rest of your life. Wake up tomorrow morning, throw open the curtains and smile at the world - it is smiling right back at you! It was Helen Keller who said that “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.” Go you!

What a fantastic quote. I love it x

Funky_Bold_Ribena wrote: »

Good on you. Step 1 - tick that box.

You are bound to feel numb - you've taken a big step. Early night, hot bath, bubbles, wash hair, and wake up to a new life. x

Definitely an early night. And maybe a bath. Thanks xx

tayforth

Hezzawithkids wrote: »

OMG well done you, you had the courage of your convictions, he now knows exactly what you're made of and that you are stronger than he could ever have imagined, I wouldn't like to be in his shoes when he turns up at his mum's tonight

Oh, she's quite similar to him, always blames others for her misfortunes. I imagine that she'll blame me and not her darling son. TBH, if I never have to see her again, that'll be one silver lining in all of this!!! :rotfl:

(long story but she's a nightmare)

nerak_y wrote: »

Ah I signed in after work to see how you were, big hugs and well done for making the break.

You will feel numb, I think that is normal. Then as time goes on you will start finding the simplest things amazing and enjoyable, bathing alone without getting a hard time for doing so was my biggy!

When your hand reaches for your front door in the coming weeks, it will be without dread as to what may be waiting for you.

Good for you girly!!! xx

Aw. Big hugs to you, and how nice to take pleasure in such a simple thing as bathing. Thanks again for sharing your experiences xx

gerturdeanna wrote: »

Just read this from beginning to end! You are bound to feel numb - have a drink (alcoholic or otherwise), have a soak in the bath, don't answer any calls from him and chill out thinking of the rest of your life!

Take care

Thank you. I had a bottle of wine on standby! But I can't really face it. I'll have some tomorrow maybe.

paulineb_2

Its normal to have mixed emotions after so long with someone, someone is part of your life for a long time and even if they are a massive pain in the rear end you will probably go through a lot of different feelings.

And being single really isnt so bad, its miles better than being in a relationship where you dont feel valued.

The two significant relationships in my life, I spent years getting my ears bashed about how I wasnt quite good enough.

And even in my loneliest moments and there have been a few, I appreciate being able to come home, do what I like without getting lectured about this that or the next.

And I have self esteem and worth even in my most fed up moments that I didnt have when I was with those people.

One day at a time as I said before.

msb5262

So pleased and relieved - and so proud of you! Well done. This is really just the beginning!
MsB x