FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

neneromanova

I definitely agree to start packing his stuff so he doesn't say "oh, I won't be able to pack and leave tonight." I would also take photos if his stuff so he can't turn round and say you damaged his stuff. I wouldn't put his stuff by the front door though. If he sees it the moment he walks through the door he could flip.

Good on you for doing this. Ignore the posters who say "oh I've been through an abusive relationship and you're being so mean to him" it just shows they might need a little help themselves getting over their old relationship.

You know what is right for you, you know you don't want to look back and think why didn't I leave then.

Sounds strange, but just in case he does turn abusive, physical, I'd have a phone and some kind of weapon to protect yourself in easy range just in case. You never know.

Good luck again. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow

tayforth

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

I think if he's the registered keeper then if he is not amicable about your half then he possibly would be able to keep it.

Bare in mind that as part of the divorce he could claim half of your money and visa versa.

We've only been married a few months! What would entitle him to any of my money?

What should I do about the car?

neneromanova wrote: »

I definitely agree to start packing his stuff so he doesn't say "oh, I won't be able to pack and leave tonight." I would also take photos if his stuff so he can't turn round and say you damaged his stuff. I wouldn't put his stuff by the front door though. If he sees it the moment he walks through the door he could flip.

Good on you for doing this. Ignore the posters who say "oh I've been through an abusive relationship and you're being so mean to him" it just shows they might need a little help themselves getting over their old relationship.

You know what is right for you, you know you don't want to look back and think why didn't I leave then.

Sounds strange, but just in case he does turn abusive, physical, I'd have a phone and some kind of weapon to protect yourself in easy range just in case. You never know.

Good luck again. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow

That's why I'm packing it. It won't take long and it'll give him no excuses. It's in the living room, not the hall. But yes, he will see it.

Must take photos of it all too.

And yes, I don't want to look back, that's exactly it.

No weapons, he's bigger than me and could use them against me. But yes, I'll have my phone and will dial 999 if needs be.

And thank you xxx

tayforth

Re the car - could I get him to sign something saying that I own half of it, before agreeing to give him the keys?

neneromanova

Could you not pay for a taxi for him to put his stuff in and get to his mums? That way you know he won't keep the car.

tayforth

neneromanova wrote: »

Could you not pay for a taxi for him to put his stuff in and get to his mums? That way you know he won't keep the car.

I didn't think of that. Thank you xx

Kayalana99

tayforth wrote: »

We've only been married a few months! What would entitle him to any of my money?

What should I do about the car?




That's why I'm packing it. It won't take long and it'll give him no excuses. It's in the living room, not the hall. But yes, he will see it.

Must take photos of it all too.

And yes, I don't want to look back, that's exactly it.

No weapons, he's bigger than me and could use them against me. But yes, I'll have my phone and will dial 999 if needs be.

And thank you xxx

You know I never really thought how comlicated this was going to get!! I do feel for you OP fortunatly for me thier was nothing but a sofa, tv and table when I spilt with my Ex and I kept them all cause he didnt want the sofa and table but we both wanted the Tv...he argured about it forever but end day I said he was welcome to take the other two and we wernt married. He even tried blackmailing me for £500...but thats another story. :cool:

I geniunly think you need to seek a solictors advice on this divorce, since its so short they generally 'put you back at what you started' so he wouldn't get any of your money but if the car was his orignally then that would be his BUT you would either have to decide a financal settlement between you that this is suitable or get solictors involved so you get to keep your money....

I can't give you much advice about the rent contract etc but if you talk to citzens tomorrow thats before tuesday anyway so hopefully they can give you soild advice.
You'll get a free half hour and they can advise you on some of your rights etc.

tayforth

Kayalana99 wrote: »

You know I never really thought how comlicated this was going to get!! I do feel for you OP fortunatly for me thier was nothing but a sofa, tv and table when I spilt with my Ex and I kept them all cause he didnt want the sofa and table but we both wanted the Tv...he argured about it forever but end day I said he was welcome to take the other two and we wernt married. He even tried blackmailing me for £500...but thats another story. :cool:

I geniunly think you need to seek a solictors advice on this divorce, since its so short they generally 'put you back at what you started' so he wouldn't get any of your money but if the car was his orignally then that would be his BUT you would either have to decide a financal settlement between you that this is suitable or get solictors involved so you get to keep your money....

I can't give you much advice about the rent contract etc but if you talk to citzens tomorrow thats before tuesday anyway so hopefully they can give you soild advice.
You'll get a free half hour and they can advise you on some of your rights etc.

The car is ours. We both paid cash for it. I have a record of giving him half the money for everything.

Kayalana99

tayforth wrote: »

The car is ours. We both paid cash for it. I have a record of giving him half the money for everything.

Ah yea you did say about having record of giving him half...in that case its either sell up and divide or one pay half towards it....

But then thats if you can agree out of court what your both getting.

Its abit more comlicated when theirs marriage involved hopefully you can avoid the courts since it was so short...

tayforth

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Ah yea you did say about having record of giving him half...in that case its either sell up and divide or one pay half towards it....

But then thats if you can agree out of court what your both getting.

Its abit more comlicated when theirs marriage involved hopefully you can avoid the courts since it was so short...

I don't want to go to court, definitely not.

If he keeps the car then he'll have that on his conscience.

Bangton

I'm not sure as to why, if you are so fearful you aren't clearing all your things from your home and leaving him there with a view to YOU renting somewhere else (you mentioned money wasn't an issue previously).

You could then meet somewhere public/neutral to discuss the ins and out of the split....without compromising your safety.

I say this purely out of concern x