FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

HeatherH

tayforth wrote: »

Last night was perfect. We talked, we laughed, and we kissed. I am completely and utterly smitten. :smileyhea

Woohoo, thats fantastic news x

Hezzawithkids

tayforth wrote: »

Last night was perfect. We talked, we laughed, and we kissed. I am completely and utterly smitten. :smileyhea

So happy for you!

msb5262

Hello Tayforth,
I'm delighted to hear that you are feeling great...and I honestly don't think it would be tasteless to have a party to celebrate your freedom. I invited a few friends round for a drink to raise a glass to my new status when my divorce came through.
I'd also like to add that it gives me particular pleasure to read your comments on other people's threads relating to unhappy/abusive relationships...you definitely believe in sharing the wisdom you have won!

tayforth

Thanks for the kind words everyone. I will keep you posted!

I had another date with the new guy on Tuesday. We talked about so much stuff. I told him my story. He was really lovely about it and said that I'm an amazing, brave person. :A I felt so much better after telling him, but I kind of knew that it would be ok iykwim! He's very easy to talk to and I feel totally comfortable with him. And I also fancy him rotten!!!

msb5262 wrote: »

Hello Tayforth,
I'm delighted to hear that you are feeling great...and I honestly don't think it would be tasteless to have a party to celebrate your freedom. I invited a few friends round for a drink to raise a glass to my new status when my divorce came through.
I'd also like to add that it gives me particular pleasure to read your comments on other people's threads relating to unhappy/abusive relationships...you definitely believe in sharing the wisdom you have won!

Well, maybe I will celebrate! Just with close friends/family (as opposed to hiring the Albert Hall :rotfl:), but I don't see the harm in it when you put it like that. :beer:

And thanks, I feel it's the least I can do to share the wisdom that I've gained from this wonderful thread. You've all been so incredibly helpful and supportive, I want to do the same for others. I've also been a confidante to a friend who's going through similar problems in her marriage. Knowing what it's like to feel so miserable and hopeless, I can't not try to help xxx

tayforth

ONE YEAR SINCE I STARTED THIS AMAZING THREAD

It's been a year, almost to the minute, since I first posted here. A year ago today I was in despair. I couldn't see a way out of the horrible situation that I was in. I was married to a man who manipulated and emotionally abused me on a daily basis.

Life had become miserable, I couldn't see a way out. I was walking on eggshells. I dreaded going home after work. I was even avoiding my friends, as I didn't have the strength to put on a brave face in front of them any more. I was ashamed of what I was putting up with. I was exhausted, I wasn't sleeping or eating. I walked around with a huge weight of sadness and hopelessness on my shoulders.

The best thing I ever did was posting this thread. The kindness shown to me by all of you brought tears to my eyes. You opened my eyes and made me realise what was going on. You made me see that we only get one life, and it's precious. You gave me the encouragement to go to the Samaritans.

I began to see a way out. I realised that I was worth more, that I deserved to be treated well, that I could and should leave my ex and seek happiness on my own. Over the next two weeks, I managed to hold myself together for work and my family, while I gathered up the strength to end my marriage.

When I finally did it, I felt numb. And I still had my sister's wedding to get through. And get through it I did, with the support of my aunt. We all had a marvellous day, and I was so happy for my sister and BIL.

I took some time off work to stay with my family. I relaxed and I began to sleep and eat again. When I returned to work and to my own house, I was very apprehensive, but everyone was so supportive, and I soon began to rebuild my confidence and my social life. I had a declutter and made the place just the way I wanted it. It became my haven, and still is.

Christmas was spent with my family, and it was wonderful. I looked back on the year and celebrated being 100 times happier at the end than I had been at the beginning. I'm free. My life is so different now, it feels full of possibilities. I'm back to my old happy self. I've been on holiday. I say yes to invitations. I enjoy my own company and also love being with my friends and family. I smile and laugh every single day.

And the cherry on top...

A few weeks ago, I met someone very special. I have been on several dates with him already. Yesterday, he told me that he's completely smitten with me, as I am with him. He's kind, gentle, decent, thoughtful, easygoing and a joy to be around. I can't believe that I've met such an amazing guy, I'm so lucky.


So...

Thank you very very much, you lovely people. None of the above would have been possible without this thread, you have all been wonderful. I owe you so much, and I wish that I could thank every single one of you personally. :A

I'll continue to update you on my progress, and I hope that my story will help others who are in the same situation but afraid to leave. Life does get better.

Tayforth xxx

spirit

What a lovely update Tayforth. You write so well too.

I'm pleased to have watched and occasionally commented on your thread. It's lovely to see how you've evolved in that time - well done.

And :beer: to the future.

JanCee

I do so love an update, especially a positive one like this. Well done, you deserve to be happy.

CH27

Wow! I can't believe a year has gone by so fast.

You've come so far & I hope you have a very happy future with your new man xx

rosie_78

I'm so happy for your Tayforth xx you're doing really well for yourself.

You've been a massive support to me, I'll never forget that. Your emails really cheer me up in the day

You deserve all this happiness coming your way. You're a genuinely lovely person.

Thank you. xx

jackieblack

Tayforth, that update made me quite teary!

You are an amazing person, you have been so strong and now you have built this new life for yourself. It has been a privilege to follow you on your journey.

It is so lovely to hear you so positive and happy
Your new man sounds lovely, I hope things continue to go well for you and that you continue to smile and laugh every single day