FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

Brighton_belle

bagpussbear wrote: »

My feeling is that your mum has sussed already. May make things easier actually for you if she has?

Yes, I thought that too. But whether she has or not, she seems calm and accepting of what Tay has told her, so Tay's objective is being achieved for the wedding weekend.

tayforth

Just spent the last hour tidying the bedrooms and getting out some of my nice things that I'd stored away. I now have a lovely silver vintage style mirror where the TV used to be (I hate TV in the bedroom but - you guessed it - the ex got his own way).

I've dug out the gorgeous new bedlinen to put on the bed - will do that tomorrow. The main bedroom is looking quite different already! I'm hoping to sleep in it on Monday night when I come back from my mum's.

bagpussbear wrote: »

My feeling is that your mum has sussed already. May make things easier actually for you if she has?

Oh, I hope that she hasn't. I really don't want her worrying. Because if she does think that we've split up, she'll think that he's dumped me and that I'm heartbroken.


But you never know. I'll find out soon enough...

tayforth

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Yes, I thought that too. But whether she has or not, she seems calm and accepting of what Tay has told her, so Tay's objective is being achieved for the wedding weekend.

Yes. That's what I wanted. At least she's not going mad about him not making it to the wedding. Although she did say that he left it too long to go to the doctor. I said that he couldn't get an appointment until today, it's really hard to get an appointment at that surgery!

Person_one

tayforth wrote: »

Yes. That's what I wanted. At least she's not going mad about him not making it to the wedding. Although she did say that he left it too long to go to the doctor. I said that he couldn't get an appointment until today, it's really hard to get an appointment at that surgery!

It might be that she just suspects all is not well, but if she's anything like most mums she'll have had an inkling of that for a long time, so try not to worry too much.

zzzLazyDaisy

tayforth wrote: »

It's still such a novelty that I can do as I please.

One evening, about a year after I split with my ex, I met with a friend for a drink, which was unusual for me as I was a home-bird. Anyway, we had a good time and it was much later than I expected when I went home. As we walked to the car park in the dark, I had a sudden short flashback of a time when I would have dreaded going home to 'face the music'.

Without thinking, I said to my friend (who never knew my ex) 'it is so nice to be out late and not worry about being told off'....

She looked at me and laughed, and said 'Who's going to tell you off, Daisy? You are a grown woman, you can do what you like'.

It's strange, but I remember that as the moment I was finally free, and I never looked back.

Remember that Tay, no matter what else happens from here on in.... you are a grown woman, and you can do what you like. Enjoy your new bedding and your vintage bits and pieces.

x

tayforth

Person_one wrote: »

It might be that she just suspects all is not well, but if she's anything like most mums she'll have had an inkling of that for a long time, so try not to worry too much.

OK. I'll put it to the back of my mind until next week xxx

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

One evening, about a year after I split with my ex, I met with a friend for a drink, which was unusual for me as I was a home-bird. Anyway, we had a good time and it was much later than I expected when I went home. As we walked to the car park in the dark, I had a sudden short flashback of a time when I would have dreaded going home to 'face the music'.

Without thinking, I said to my friend (who never knew my ex) 'it is so nice to be out late and not worry about being told off'....

She looked at me and laughed, and said 'Who's going to tell you off, Daisy? You are a grown woman, you can do what you like'.

It's strange, but I remember that as the moment I was finally free, and I never looked back.

Remember that Tay, no matter what else happens from here on in.... you are a grown woman, and you can do what you like. Enjoy your new bedding and your vintage bits and pieces.

x

What a moment that must have been for you! Freedom indeed.

And thanks again for giving me an insight into what's in store for me. I can see nothing but positives at the minute :A xxx

tayforth

Right. I've done my nails and relaxed for a while. Bedtime now (sorry it's even later than last night, neneromanova!).

Night night all xx

nerak_y

Hiya Tayforth!
I have just spent the last hour catching up, I have had the cold from hell for the last few days so not been online much!

Great news your doc signed you off, exactly what you need to gather your thoughts and have some 'me time' to reorganise your lovely independent new life!

I have a feeling your mum has an inkling, whether she does or doesn't I am sure she would just want to give you a hug and some support (and a telling off for keeping it to yourself). Funnily enough, my mum had just died when my ex got right into showing his true colours, and I had no choice but to turn to my dad as mum was gone. We had never been that close, and he had just gone through hell but my god, he was there for me despite that and we are so close now. So yes, the support from family is worth opening up to and I will be glad for you once the wedding is complete and you can really grasp what's happened with the support of your family!

Bug hugs to you super strong lady! xx

mintymoneysaver

Wow, you're doing so well! Really pleased you've got the telling your mum out the way, that'll be a load off your mind! It will all get better and better as time goes on too. I really think women often cope better than men with separations. We put up with so much that it's pure relief when they finally go!

I finally put my new bed together last night, after getting my new carpet yesterday. Youngest and I put it together all by ourselves, with no arguments, no stress. I hated doing anything DIY related with him!

So then I had a shower, put my lovely clean sheets on and climbed into my lovely 'all for me' new bed and actually laughed out loud to myself at how good my life is now. And then this morning I woke up, looked around and beamed again!

I've been happy ever since he left, but as I said to a friend yesterday, I feel even better lately. Don't know if it's the fact that it's over a year, or anything else(!) but now that I've realised again how happy and full life is, I am so sad that I spent so long in a lonely bad place. Everyone should feel like I do at the moment!

rockie4

Wow you are brill :T Got in the shed, sorted out the tv (almost) new bedding You go girl!!!!!!

I'm sure your Mum will be ok, Mums often suss out more than you think.....I know mine always did *rolls eyes* but make sure you enjoy the weekend first

Daisy's post about the 'freedom moment' - I can sooooo identify with that!!! A few weeks ago OH went to stay at a mates (supposedly to give me some space but I know know what he was really doing :mad: ) I went out with my friend and for the first time in years came home knowing that I was walking into an empty house with no one to comment on what time it was or how much I had had to drink.......well, I did get a dirty look off the cat for leaving her alone all night but I can cope with that!

Look to the positives I like that! That's what I'm doing and that's what you must do. Life can only get better and better :eek: