FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

I got told by a friend that, when he was around, everybody could tell, because I just wasn't the same. She described as the first time anybody had ever understood why spouses are jokingly referred to as a 'ball and chain', because they could see I was being held back.

Of course, this may have something to do with the fact that I tend towards a habit of drinking a little bit, singing and talking/dancing with random men after gigs. Which is, apparently, what they like about me

tayforth

busiscoming2 wrote: »

Wow! You go girl

Thanks. I am feeling a bit 'HA I can do anything' today.

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Oh Tay, that is marvellous: I was wondering when you were going to tell her and thought that might be a stress point. So relieved for you.
And well done for tackling some of the practical stuff - no shame in having a go with the tv and then booking a technician: that's still sorting it out

Yes, that's been stressing me out for a while. I'm so glad that she believed me. HUGE relief.

And I've never been very technically-minded; it's a wonder I managed to get the thing out of the box and plug it in! :rotfl:

tayforth

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

I got told by a friend that, when he was around, everybody could tell, because I just wasn't the same. She described as the first time anybody had ever understood why spouses are jokingly referred to as a 'ball and chain', because they could see I was being held back.

Of course, this may have something to do with the fact that I tend towards a habit of drinking a little bit, singing and talking/dancing with random men after gigs. Which is, apparently, what they like about me

You're right; and it's easy to see afterwards how much of a weight you've been carrying around.

I swear, even though I was tired today, my shoulders were back, my head was up and I walked with a little spring in my step. I look back to my stooped, shrunken self a month ago and I know without a doubt that I've done the right thing.

Alpha58

tayforth wrote: »

Gah.

Don't know why but I enjoyed that one. Strangely expressive!

tayforth wrote: »

I'm determined to stand on my own two feet and not let any of the ex's dirty little tricks beat me

That's exactly what you are doing. Glad you got the bolt off the shed door. Feminine intelligence beats male sledgehammer (or bolt cropper) tactics every time

Person_one

tayforth wrote: »

Gah. Managed to get the freeview channels tuned, but not Virgin. Gave up and phoned Virgin, who are sending a technician tomorrow. But at least I have some channels for now!

Then I phoned to confirm my hire car for tomorrow.

Also unscrewed the bolt on the back shed, so I can use it again I'm determined to stand on my own two feet and not let any of the ex's dirty little tricks beat me

Today the shed, tomorrow the world!

Person_one

tayforth wrote: »

You're right; and it's easy to see afterwards how much of a weight you've been carrying around.

I swear, even though I was tired today, my shoulders were back, my head was up and I walked with a little spring in my step. I look back to my stooped, shrunken self a month ago and I know without a doubt that I've done the right thing.

About 6 months after I left my ex, I remember really clearly walking down the road to my new flat (all mine!) wearing my uniform from my new job (career change that he wasn't supportive of at all) and looking forward to walking my new dogs (that he refused to let me have, ever) and suddenly realising I was beaming from ear to ear! People walking past me must have thought I'd gone loopy.

That'll be you before you know it.

tayforth

Alpha58 wrote: »

Don't know why but I enjoyed that one. Strangely expressive!


That's exactly what you are doing. Glad you got the bolt off the shed door. Feminine intelligence beats male sledgehammer (or bolt cropper) tactics every time

Thank you I do feel as if I've outwitted him, he probably thinks that he's been so clever. But I know that I can cope with anything

Person_one wrote: »

Today the shed, tomorrow the world!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Person_one wrote: »

About 6 months after I left my ex, I remember really clearly walking down the road to my new flat (all mine!) wearing my uniform from my new job (career change that he wasn't supportive of at all) and looking forward to walking my new dogs (that he refused to let me have, ever) and suddenly realising I was beaming from ear to ear! People walking past me must have thought I'd gone loopy.

That'll be you before you know it.

Awww!!!! I have such a lovely mental image of you! New flat, new job and new dogs (I love dogs). No wonder you were smiling :A

tayforth

I'm going to have a quick tidy upstairs, the bedrooms are upside down with my attempts at reorganising.

And then I'll relax with a book or DVD before bed, in peace.

It's still such a novelty that I can do as I please.

spirit

tayforth wrote: »

I'm determined to stand on my own two feet and not let any of the ex's dirty little tricks beat me

:T that's the spirit:T (no pun intended)

bagpussbear

tayforth wrote: »

Then I phoned my mum to tell her that 'OH' was too ill to make it to the wedding, and she believed me - or if she didn't, she didn't question it. So that's one massive hurdle overcome. What a relief. Hopefully, she'll tell lots of people before Saturday and I won't be quizzed too much.

My feeling is that your mum has sussed already. May make things easier actually for you if she has?