Daughter leaving home......

melanzana

I have no children. Am happy with that. I have nieces and nephews whom I love dearly, and I can hand em back. Thank God.

Nothing but admiration for the hard work that goes into raising kids. Hat off to you all. But it just seems like total frustration with the odd loving feeling now and then, (usually when they want something) interspersed with mad hissy fits and all the rest of it.

Anyhow, this is going to sound REALLY bad, so apologies in advance. But this CFS thing seems to mean the hissy fits are allowed. And where in the name of God or Mammon do they always have the energy to FIGHT, and play up? But if asked to wash a cup... Well, "sorry Mum, I'm just too tired with my CFS" excuse.

CFS seems to be a teenage/young adult syndrome. Hmmm.

claire16c

That has got to be one of the most bizarre things I've ever read about cooking. Getting pans out but somehow they're not in the way - and 1-2 days in advance? !!!!!!? Why? How does that even make sense?

And not washing a cup everyday? And complaining when somebody does it for you?

Brighton_belle

melanzana wrote: »

Anyhow, this is going to sound REALLY bad, so apologies in advance. But this CFS thing seems to mean the hissy fits are allowed. And where in the name of God or Mammon do they always have the energy to FIGHT, and play up? But if asked to wash a cup... Well, "sorry Mum, I'm just too tired with my CFS" excuse.

CFS seems to be a teenage/young adult syndrome. Hmmm.

Your assumptions appear to be based on this one posters daughter.While I agree the description of the OP's DD doesn't really show her in a sympathetic light, neither does it actually give any evidence that she even has cfs, so please don't base your knowledge of cfs on this thread.

Cfs is generally absolutely devastating and at times life wrecking for children and men and women of all ages.
However, it doesn't over ride basic personality flaws or teenage angst and agro any more than teenage diabetes or any other illness does.
The relentless exhaustion can make you a bit more emotionally fragile at times.

melanzana

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Your assumptions appear to be based on this one posters daughter.While I agree the description of the OP's DD doesn't really show her in a sympathetic light, neither does it actually give any evidence that she even has cfs, so please don't base your knowledge of cfs on this thread.

Cfs is generally absolutely devastating and at times life wrecking for children and men and women of all ages.
However, it doesn't over ride basic personality flaws or teenage angst and agro any more than teenage diabetes or any other illness does.
The relentless exhaustion can make you a bit more emotionally fragile at times.

I have a friend who was floored by this CFS in her thirties, and I saw the reality. It is the pits. she was diagnosed eventually With Lyme disease.

But I still think in many cases at a young age it is a cop out. Fashionable, call it what you will.

Genuine cases of CFS do not have the energy to argue and fight, or have a realistic relationship, or even live normally.

But as you say the OP may not br giving the full story.

I am sceptical. As always. ;)

Saturnalia

I've got a friend who has CFS. Her experience is that on a good day she is as healthy as any of us, on a bad day she can hobble painfully with sticks and is in bed as soon as she gets home, and on a really bad day she can barely get out of bed on the first place. It's so variable. She often can't predict when a bedridden day will hit and has to be careful not to wear herself out too much on a day she is feeling energetic or tomorrow she'll be in a bad way.

She's always had understanding housemates who have done her share of the cleaning when she is sick and then she's returned the favour when she's better again.

It's a condition that is highly variable from day-to-day and probably two sufferers will be affected differently.

But yes, OP's daughter had me going "hmm" as well. Attends college, takes dance classes, runs around with the boyfriend, picks fights with her brother and throws tantrums, but can't pick up the mess she makes or occasionally walk the dog she asked for? Housemates would be telling her straight in minutes.

jenhug

Saturnalia wrote: »

I've got a friend who has CFS. Her experience is that on a good day she is as healthy as any of us, on a bad day she can hobble painfully with sticks and is in bed as soon as she gets home, and on a really bad day she can barely get out of bed on the first place. It's so variable. She often can't predict when a bedridden day will hit and has to be careful not to wear herself out too much on a day she is feeling energetic or tomorrow she'll be in a bad way.

She's always had understanding housemates who have done her share of the cleaning when she is sick and then she's returned the favour when she's better again.

It's a condition that is highly variable from day-to-day and probably two sufferers will be affected differently.

But yes, OP's daughter had me going "hmm" as well. Attends college, takes dance classes, runs around with the boyfriend, picks fights with her brother and throws tantrums, but can't pick up the mess she makes or occasionally walk the dog she asked for? Housemates would be telling her straight in minutes.

As an ME sufferer I identify fully with the description you made of your friend. I however, have no idea how the OP's daughter manages to live such a full life.