Daughter leaving home......

Funky_Bold_Ribena

duchy wrote: »

Sorry but drinking out of the same cup without washing it over a period of several days is just vile. Over the same day -I can understand ........ and a few cups in a sink take a very short time to wash.

Funky in the American sense - as in.... that cup of Ribina tastes funky ...is shedding new light on your user name !!

Indeed it is. Buerk.

*max*

How hard is it to wash a cup??? Seriously, you're going a whole week with one glass? I'm sorry, but even by my standards that's minging. Do you do the same for plates? Just wash you damm glass. Seriously.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

Surely it's the same amount of effort to pick your glass up from where you left it as to take it out of the cupboard? Unless you have exceptionally high cupboards.

I can't believe you take pots and pans out of the cupboard for making a meal 2-3 days in advance. Or you get the sandwich making stuff out of the fridge the night before. Make the frickin sandwiches the night before - open the fridge and just take out the sandwiches in the morning.

Talk about making life difficult for yourself. And your mother. She must be tearing her hair out.

Errata

I have two cups (one for water and one for squash, yuk I can't drink water out of a cup which has had something else in) which I use over the course of the week, only putting them in the sink before that and getting new ones if they get really grubby

I have CFS

There's a surprise.

ash28

KxMx wrote: »

I think not being able to leave anything out is a bit extreme, it's up to the adult to set the rules and if those rules are broken (ie a few things become more things as per your example) then action should be taken.

But yes I do see where you are coming from. I did say in my post though- and you cut this bit out- as long as it's not causing a nuisance/mess to other household members then stuff within reason should be left alone and respected Of course ask 10 people the definition of reasonable in this context and I reckon there would be 10 different answers!

With your example if cleaning is taking twice as long because of all the stuff out then obviously that is causing a nuisance and should be addressed.


The only kinds of things I tend to leave out are a small amount of personal items and domestic; such as kit needed to clean the cat litter box; sandwich making stuff if i am getting an early train or packets/utensils/pots and pans when cooking (if it is a big meal). All out 1-2 days in advance and put out of the way.

I have CFS among other problems and over the years have found ways to help me manage my precious energy. Not fiddling around getting everything out immediately before chores is one thing that works for me.

I have two cups (one for water and one for squash, yuk I can't drink water out of a cup which has had something else in) which I use over the course of the week, only putting them in the sink before that and getting new ones if they get really grubby. I make every effort to keep them in the same place. Yet Mum will randomly decide to put all the cups in the sink and wash them a several days later- which is a waste because they still had useage left and she or I now have 2x quantity to do!

I don't think it is so unreasonable in those instances to expect my Mum to leave things like that well alone. We do go through phases where she tidies everything I leave out away promptly (why I honestly do not know because she is very lax about leaving lots of her stuff lying around for weeks or even months!) and it really is a horrible feeling that you can't leave anything out in the place you live in.

I think as long as the items left out are reasonable then it is perfectly reasonable to expect the other household members to treat them with respect.

In OP's case I think the daughter should have tidied away her headphones; but equally she should be able to have an expectation that they will be left alone.

Now that is scary.....sandwich making stuff left out overnight....what about warm nights in the summer? The mind just boggles. If it is too much effort to open the fridge door in the morning, then make the sandwiches and put them in the fridge overnight. Out of interest do put the stuff left out overnight back in the fridge in the morning or just leave it to fester until someone else cleans up after you?

Using a cup for a week - especially for juice is pretty gross....but they are your insides and not mine. No wonder your mother washes them up. A day maybe - a week not a chance. I will use a cup for my coffee for a day - sometimes I rinse it out and sometimes I don't. If I do use a cup for the day then it's either in the dishwasher before I go to bed or first thing the next morning.

Pots and packets for a meal - 1 to 2 days in advance......you wouldn't last long in our house. Everything is put away after every meal - I have nothing left on my work tops - and how can you leave stuff out and it be "out of the way"

Your habits would drive me insane that's apart from the potential health hazards caused by leaving sandwich stuff out overnight.

I'm not a particularly fussy person as I believe everyone should be exposed to a few germs but not to the level you are exposing yourself.

System

The only kinds of things I tend to leave out are a small amount of personal items and domestic; such as kit needed to clean the cat litter box; sandwich making stuff if i am getting an early train or packets/utensils/pots and pans when cooking (if it is a big meal). All out 1-2 days in advance and put out of the way.

Sorry that would drive me up the wall. My kitchen, my rules no matter how tired you are.

have two cups (one for water and one for squash, yuk I can't drink water out of a cup which has had something else in) which I use over the course of the week, only putting them in the sink before that and getting new ones if they get really grubby. I make every effort to keep them in the same place.

I think you need your own place.

Errata

As Aggie and Kim showed us, some households are content to live in complete squalor.

butler_helen

Errata wrote: »

As Aggie and Kim showed us, some households are content to live in complete squalor.

We solved all our issues with a dishwasher... Hides dishes and cleans them when full! We also only have the bare minimum of plates etc so you have to wash... Otherwise we would live like students :eek:

valk_scot

swampduck wrote: »

Does that include the dog? :whistle:


Swampy

Only if the dog has been left in an inconvenient place.

System

Sorry but the dog has to stay at the Mothers place. At least the Mother wouldnt be too tired to take him for walkies.