Daughter leaving home......

helenthemum

My 17 yr old daughter is leaving and not under good circumstances.

She fell out with her younger brother over him taking a bottle of energy drink (which I had bought for her) and he borrowed her head phones which were lying around without asking her. She had a major go at him

When I pointed out to her that whilst it was wrong for him to borrow things without asking and to drink her drink it was not the end of the world. She started packing and is now getting ready to leave.

I am very upset and don't know what to do. Nothing I say brings her around.

She has threaten to leave many times before, but this time it seems different.

Person_one

Where does she think she's going?

17 is a bit old for this kind of tantrum, isn't it? Are you posting while she's packing to run away from home in a strop!

valk_scot

Where's she intending to go? Has she any money?

Ladyhawk

Tell her to get on with it, but she will always be welcome back when she wants to.

I'll put good money that she will soon calm down and realise she has overreacted.

pink_princess

I would make my son walk to the closest corner shop that is open to buy her another drink from his own money. He then needs to be talked to about theft and respecting peoples belongings.

Your daughter then needs talked to about growing up and over reacting. Imagine something big happens if that is her reaction to such a little thing?

helenthemum

She doesn't know where she is going, I suspect she will stay at her boyfriends for a few days if she does leave.

I have tried talking to her for the last 3 hours. At the moment she is calmly sorting through her bedroom, which I have been asking her to tidy for about 6 months+. Her boyfriend is with her at the moment so giving them some space. He is a lovely person and I am hoping he will help her see sense.

I have tried everything I can think of the change her mind, I seriously hope some of the things I have said sink in and she changes her mind.

I love her so much and will do anything for her, probably spoilt her too much in time and attention, dance lessons, always being there for her, especially when bad things have happened, going to the doctors with her at her request etc. She had cfs diagnosed just after Christmas and I have tried to help her as much as possible. I bought her a dog as she said it will help her and make her go out more, I have been looking after it which I kind of expected but hoped that she would take more care of it than she does.

I just want her to stay so I can carry on being a mum to her.

helenthemum

valk_scot wrote: »

Where's she intending to go? Has she any money?

She has no money and no job.

helenthemum

pink_princess wrote: »

I would make my son walk to the closest corner shop that is open to buy her another drink from his own money. He then needs to be talked to about theft and respecting peoples belongings.

Your daughter then needs talked to about growing up and over reacting. Imagine something big happens if that is her reaction to such a little thing?

I have told him he has to but her a replacement and he will tomorrow as our corner shop doesn't sell the one she wants and the supermarkets are closed until tomorrow.

Errata

No money, no job and CFS? I hope the BF has very understanding parents.

helenthemum

Ladyhawk wrote: »

Tell her to get on with it, but she will always be welcome back when she wants to.

I'll put good money that she will soon calm down and realise she has overreacted.

I really hope so. I don't know what I would if she does leave. The house would be tidier and less stressful, but so empty I would miss her so much. I miss my eldest when he is away at united and he has been there for nearly 2 years.

19lottie82

It sound like she is just throwing a teenage strip to get a bit of attention. You sound like a loving Mum, and I have no doubt that if she does "leave", she will be back within a week, with her tail between her legs when she realises that the grass ain't always greener! (And you can't live on fresh air / love alone)