Aprils Fool No More!!!

angelpye

L2B, all I can offer is how I make myself think for an interview, hard to explain but will try.
I read and read my application that is obviously a true statement but I never think of myself as having done or being capable of those things, so reading it over and over (after the usual research into field and employer as knowledge is power) kind of briefly boosts me. I then go in with the mentality that I finding out if I want to work for them and the interview is a my time to show them they would be mad not to interview me. I have very low self esteem usually but somehow I make this work for me, only ever not got one job and for one that I turned down they wanted feedback as to why! Apparently I come across as very calm and confident, so whatever I do it must work, although I have a bit of a work persona anyway as my job is full of confident assertive people so I have to match that - not always that way at home though!

stationeryspender

Glad your first day went well Jonesy. Remember it's always going to seem weird starting a new place when you had such great friends (as you mentioned) at your old place. But I'm sure after a couple of weeks once you've got to know people you will find your clique in your new job as well.
Good luck for your interview Learn2Budget. I agree with all the tips angelpye suggested. You have to treat it a bit as a performance where you are the best, most confident version of yourself for those 40 mins. I interview a lot of people in my job, and what no one tells you is that the interviewers are desperately hoping that everyone they see does well! Often,by the time interviews come round you know that so much time has been put into writing the job description, advertising & sorting (all of which cost money) you are praying that there is someone good which means that you don't have to go through that process again. If you get to interview it's because they want you for the job! You have got through the hardest part! Just take deep breaths, listen to the question carefully & highlight your skills & experience. Also re-read the job description. Most questions are based around that or the skills they are looking for so you can have a bit of a practice. GOOD LUCK

thriftylass

Good luck L2B. I used to be rubbish at interviews (low self esteem back then too). I can only agree with the previous posts. Read your CV, know what you can do. Also I used to be intimidated by the whole sitting infront of interviewers till I realised they want sth from me. They wouldn't have invited me if they didn't think I'm suitable so far, reminding me of that usually boosted my confidence. Also see small things as accomplishments. I always used to belittle my work till an old boss looked through my CV etc and pointed out achievements even little ones that I wasn't aware of as such.

Plus I usually take valerian (a herbal calming thingy from the health shop, slightly overdosed in my Viva and was a bit too relaxed though :rotfl::rotfl:)

Good luck

Today should be another SFD, that leaving my wallet at home and taking the bike proves successful

Well, the unexpected can happen. Out of my 18 items that haven't sold three or more times and never had any watchers, three now do and one has four bids (£1.80 :rotfl:) with 9 days to go.

Learning2Budget

Thanks guys. Will try to put on a dazzling performance!!x

stationeryspender

I've updated my signature - SFD yesterday, and I've chalked up todays given that I'm in bed with an allergic reaction & can't see me going anywhere!

nannygladys

Hi everyone, Im back

Been awol for a bit and budgets blown, not a clue how many sfd's I have had - not very many - but Ive pulled myself together, stopped spending, done a food inventory, put my debit card in the back of my drawer and will try to last until the end of the month. I have spent an obscene amount for me on absolute nothing, just been looking at my BS and I cant remember where most of it has gone:( that'll teach me, so OD is looking really sorry for itself, but Im back and will do my best for the rest of the month, I will do a new sig and work from there.

Glad you had a lovely party day Kat, and you are still rushing round like a loon fitting everything in, I dont know how you do it, I wish I had some of your energy.

Right off to update sig and then put washing out, really lovely day here, even if it is a bit blowy, today wont be a SFD as I have to get a few things like milk, loo rolls etc (all necessary stuff) and food for Rosie and Doris, but have a bit of money left in purse and then will allow myself £10 a week until this month finishes and try to have as many SFD's as possible.

Hugs to all
nannyg

kickuptheasstime

Hi everyone
No SFD for me today, however I have set myself a budget of £10 per week for lunches. I would love to be able to bring packed lunches to work, but it's completely impractical, so rather than spend lots each day buying lunch & treats on impulse I have today spent £11.77 on lunches for the rest of the week which will live in the fridge at work :cool:

No other spending planned for today though!

x

his_missus

Hello all,

I feel like I'm leaking money at the moment. Hubby could be drinking shandies this weekend at this rate, our weekend spends are depleting.

Had to buy a birthday pressie for my neice yesterday. I kind of fell for my own guilt trip - she's only asked one thing which was £6 over my ideal £10 budget. Now if I'd have said "oh I wasn't planning on spending that much" my sister would probably not have minded and it's not as if my neice has told me herself she wants it and would be disappointed. However, my sister's are my fave out of all the neices and nephews (ssshh! don't tell anyone I said that), I don't spend enough time with her (or any of them really) and I am her only real Aunty.

Hey ho!

angelpye

Well done nannyg! That's exactly what you need to do - accept the things you can't change, pick yourself up and go again! Too easy to allow yourself the rest of the month on the naughty step - turns ng it around asap is harder! Welcome back.

NinjaSavingKat

Good Afternoon Folks...

L2B when is the actual interview? Jonesy did you answer the phone not knowing what they wanted, who they were, who they were asking for and wondering why peopld hadn't worn name badges for your first day? It's like everyday at work for me...:p...give it time though - they might surprise you with their wit and practical jokes in the office to amuse you...

NannyG glad you are back on the bandwagon and with us until the end! We will all have mishaps along the way but its important to recognise them, get up and dust ourselves off - hide the debit card and get back on the donkey. I'll give you a horse when you have that OD gone..:rotfl:

Thrifty I laughed at your valeian overdose!! But you are right the little things count on you CV. On eBay the little things just make you want to scream - like rubbish bids! Good luck in the next 9 days!

StationarySpender I meant to ask if your name is the reason you are in debt.. pretty paper and pen addiction? On my holidays I was getting increasinly annoyed at the locals who were talking to toursits like idiots or generally being rude. I was ready to spend 18 Euros on a beautiful stgationary set when the shop keeper shouteed "YOU CAN'T OPEN THAT" - despite me not attempting to. Instead of saying "Would you like me to open that for you so you can see what you are spending an inordinate amount of momey on"... I slowly put everything back and quietly walked out...

I have realised now that I am less likely to take sharp comments and rudeness in my stride. There is no need. Woman on the train platform yesterday stood over me and said "excuse me" expeecting me to move from the end of the bench to the middle ( and risk a cold bum ) so she didn't have to sit in the middle. I moved. But really regretted it - sounds petty but it annoyed me - it goes along with my current mental state of being true to myself, following instincts and being fair to myself and not folding because someone told me to.,,. does that make sense? Like with the whole debt thing - I will not spend money just because I am told I should, friends push me into it, industry says I should etc...

A query and a request for advise next.......

**** Friend who came to my birthday party is one out of a group of 5-6 I used to hang out with. I invited them all - only she came. She said she would be with me at 0830 to help - she turned up at 1130 and did a few meagre things in the kitchen. But left early with a very lame excuse, didn't really mingle and sat not saying much for the entire party - and not helping me at all. For her 30th I gave £60 towards a Tiffany braclet between me and 1 other friend. On Sunday she gave me a ceramic cupcake candle holder that had wax dribbled down it from her house ( that I had seen many times ) and the broken candle that was in it, 1 single espresso cup (never in my life have I drank espresso never mind coffee) and a tea-strainer holder with a cat on it after me putting on my invite to everyone specifically not to bring any cat related gifts ....****....

Now I am not an ungrateful kind of person - but having spent the best part of £100 on her and getting to her party and paying for dinner, then paying for my own party, cooking, making it look AMAZING I'd have preferred no gift at all or a simple £5 note in a card...so am I right in thinking she really couldn't be ar*ed being there?? Anyone else looking at friends differently recently... More importantly should anything be said? I think not but am interested in opinions?

I spend yesetrerday packing away all the vintage stuff with an idea to advertise it at work for anyone to rent for their own party. I have yet to figure out logistics and pricing, marking and listing the items etc but there has to be a way of making money from having this many cups and saucers etc. Something to think about I think!!!

Anyway - £19.70 made on a random eBay sell so I am happy... and two SFD's (after today) under my belt. I really need to have my fake nails taken off but am holding out until Friday at least...

Okay enough of my warblings.... keep up the good work folks..

Onwards and Upwards!!!!