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Limo on last day of school

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  • Spendless
    Spendless Posts: 24,660 Forumite
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    On my son's last day at Primary they had a special assembly, where awards were given out. Got a book that chartered their life in that school with photos that had been taken over the year and a farewell message in it from their yr 6 teacher and spent the day having their school jumpers signed and doing other fun things. I really wouldn't have wanted DS to miss his last day. I think it would very much depend on what they intend doing after the limo, if they are going somewhere can you son join them and in that case I'd find him a special way to travel there, if they are just driving around I'd just sort out a special treat for your child.
  • Felicity
    Felicity Posts: 1,064 Forumite
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    edited 31 March 2013 at 10:39AM
    I so feel for your son OP. This is not an acceptable situation, the other parents should be very ashamed.

    I am a parent of a primary school child. My son is fortunately popular and we are all very sociable parents but there are a couple of children (and parents) that are not included in the group.

    We have tried and tried but they are just not into doing social stuff, that's fine, not everybody is.

    There is no way in hell I or the other parents would have organised limos and excluded those couple of kids though. They are always invited and only excluded once we know absolutely they don't want to take part.

    Shameful behaviour. I can't believe the school doesn't intervene.

    In your position I would be heartbroken but would come up with a strategy to make it better. Only you know the situation though and can come up with something!
  • duchy
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    This is the point...It really doesn't matter what the adults here think .....WE might think a limo is chavy but we're not eleven years old .....and missing out. It wouldn't matter WHAT the activity was it's the exclusion that hurts. Both Mum and her lad.
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  • This_Year
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    duchy wrote: »
    This is the point... It wouldn't matter WHAT the activity was it's the exclusion that hurts. Both Mum and her lad.

    Exactly. :T
  • Poppy9
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    I can imagine how crap it must be to be left out. I remember in year 6 everyone had little books that they got people to write messages in and nobody wanted to write in mine :(:o
    that is heartbreaking and it's so sad that children learn to be nasty at such a young age.

    I hope they look back on that time and feel ashamed. I know we have all as children done someone a bad turn but I like to think the majority of people learn from that act and make sure they don't repeat it in life.
    :) ~Laugh and the world laughs with you, weep and you weep alone.~:)
  • lizziebabe
    lizziebabe Posts: 1,115 Forumite
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    I am with the others who say that you should ask the parents why your son was left out. It is mean and unnecessary.
    One of the best trips I did with my son was on the back of a spectacular Harley Davidson. We had one each and admittedly it was in Oz, but still....
    How cool would that be for your son to be picked up from school and drive off in front of the Limo on a Harley. That would get the tongues wagging. :D
    The parents should be ashamed of themselves, and we've all met their types before. :eek:
  • 1886
    1886 Posts: 499 Forumite
    On my last day at school I walked down the school drive and got on the bus, that was it. No limo, no fire engine, no private jet or helicopter
  • paulineb_2
    paulineb_2 Posts: 6,489 Forumite
    Boy am I glad I am of the age where we left school, primary and secondary with absolutely nil fuss. Do something with your son, take him out for a meal or go to the cinema. Growing up is tough and we learn harsh lessons along the way.

    The people who are going to come out of this looking bad are the people doing the excluding and I agree with the poster who said, if you do favours for some of the other mums and dads, by having their kids over a couple of times a week, stop it, they dont deserve it.

    Theres no need for parents to spend a ridiculous amount of money to mark an occasion such as a child leaving school, some people just dont have it anyway. Your son will make friends at his new school and this incident will be forgotten. The more you make of it, wrong as this is, the harder it will be for him to deal with.
  • jellyhead
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    As the adult I'd be tempted to stop having this boy over, but what if her son likes having him there? Maybe he's a nice lad and had no idea that her son wasn't being included in the limo.
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  • Treevo
    Treevo Posts: 1,937 Forumite
    paulineb wrote: »
    Boy am I glad I am of the age where we left school, primary and secondary with absolutely nil fuss. Do something with your son, take him out for a meal or go to the cinema. Growing up is tough and we learn harsh lessons along the way.

    The people who are going to come out of this looking bad are the people doing the excluding and I agree with the poster who said, if you do favours for some of the other mums and dads, by having their kids over a couple of times a week, stop it, they dont deserve it.

    Theres no need for parents to spend a ridiculous amount of money to mark an occasion such as a child leaving school, some people just dont have it anyway. Your son will make friends at his new school and this incident will be forgotten. The more you make of it, wrong as this is, the harder it will be for him to deal with.

    Who are they going to look bad to? Themselves? Let's not forget that the OP has no problem with another child being left out - it's only an issue because her son is being left out too.

    And I would hardly call £17 'a ridiculous amount of money'.
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